Margo Kelly

Blogfest: CRITIQUE MY BLOG

2012-02-01T05:00:00.000-08:00

Today's the day! And, it's not too late to join in to have your blog critiqued and to critique other people's blogs, CLICK HERE FOR FULL DETAILS & LIST OF PARTICIPANTS!

You can feel free to leave comments below regarding my blog's:

a. Appearance: Does it appeal to you? Is it too busy, or too plain?
b. Layout: Is it difficult to navigate? Is it cluttered, or sparse?
c. Frequency: Post too often? Not often enough?
d. Content: Are the posts interesting? Unique? Are they focused, or all over the place?
e. Quality: Are the individual posts too long, too short, too sloppy, or too generic?

And anything else you'd like to critique ... well ... except my weight. Any comments about my weight will be deleted right away.

IWSG: On Fire!

2012-02-01T02:00:00.000-08:00

Well ... it's that time of the month again ... NO! NO! ... not *that* time of the month (you know, when I complain of cramps and avoid water aerobics - - t.m.i.??) haha ... sillies ... It's time for the Insecure Writer's Support Group!! Come on! Join the fun at: IWSG

According to the purpose of the group: "Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance."

Fire ... as in: Do you have too many irons in the fire to achieve your writerly goals?

... or ...

Fire ... as in: WAIT! Don't throw your manuscript into the FIRE! Read this great book instead and improve that crazy writing style of yours!

... or ...

Fire ... as in: Set your blog on fire (in a good way) by following these simple BETTER blogging tips!!

Ha! There you go! Light a fire under those writerly goals and get to work!

What's the first item on your list to light on fire? I mean, light a fire under? haha!

A to Z Challenge: Sign-ups Start TODAY!

2012-01-30T05:40:00.000-08:00

Sign-ups have started for this fun and exhausting bloghop! Click on over to http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/ and enter your blog!

Your First 250 Words

2012-01-27T07:03:00.000-08:00

Why are the first 250 words of your manuscript so important?

Why do many agents not read beyond that point?

Why do readers pick up a book in bookstore, only read the first page, and then put the book back on the shelf?

Why does Amazon offer a sneak peak at the first page of many books?

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ANSWER: Because if you can't capture a reader's interest in the first 16 lines, first page, or first 250 words, chances are ... you're not going to do it later on in the story either.

...

According to one of my favorite websites Flogging the Quill:

"[the first page] ... includes each of these ingredients ... The one vital ingredient not listed is professional-caliber writing because that is a must for every page, a given.
•Story questions
•Tension (in the reader, not the just characters)
•Voice
•Clarity
•Scene-setting
•Character"

According to one of my favorite literary agents Suzie Townsend:
Stand out from the slush!

As soon as possible:
1. Establish your character and voice
2. Establish the conflict and move the story forward
3. Establish the tone
4. Establish an indication of setting
5. Catch the reader off guard - to grab them and keep them reading

Goals of first two pages:
1. Create interest in the character and the plot
2. Create intrigue
3. Create investment

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What do you think? Do you think it's necessary or POSSIBLE to accomplish these things in your first 250 words?

The Beginning and The End

2012-01-25T02:00:00.000-08:00

Source: http://www.forging-ahead.co.uk/bookends.htm

Have you ever evaluated how the beginning and ending of your manuscript are related? What about the beginning and ending of each chapter? Each scene?

Other than the obvious facts that these are related by plot and characters, consider the following comments from successful people in the industry:

"The opening image is also an opportunity to give us the starting point of the hero. It gives us a moment to see a "before" snapshot ... there will also be an "after" snapshot to show how things have changed. ... The opening and final images should be opposites ... showing a change so dramatic it documents the emotional upheaval ..." (Blake Snyder, SAVE THE CAT, pp. 72-73).

And, Donald Maass spends pages discussing the topic as well. "Does it matter what is the last line of your scene, or the first? Apparently, many authors do not think it does. ... That's a shame. Like a handshake, an opening and closing line can create impressions and expectations. They can set a tone. They can signal where we're going, or what we've done, or serve any number of other useful story purposes. ... Creating them deliberately, is a discipline worth developing. ... Suppose you did a first line / last line draft, doing nothing but honing the bookends of every scene in your manuscript. Would those little changes give your story a bigger and more effective shape?" (Donald Maass, THE FIRE IN FICTION, pp. 69-73).

What do you think?

Source: http://www.forging-ahead.co.uk/bookends.htm

Should every scene, chapter, and story have their "bookends" related in some fashion?

High School Speech & Debate Competitions

2012-01-23T03:00:00.000-08:00

Man. Oh. Man.

I absolutely LOVE judging high school speech and debate competitions.

I spent 12 hours Friday and 12 hours Saturday (I kid you not!), with only a 7 hour night's rest in between, judging competitions. I am STILL exhausted!

While I did get to judge three rounds of speech competitions, I mostly judged debate ... and with that, mostly POLICY debate. Holy smokes. Those people talk (aka SPEW) so fast, it's ridiculous, and they have worked so hard researching, it blows my mind!

But, I thought I would share with you a few of the funny things I overheard teenagers say during the competition (two of these were said in speeches, and two were said in the hallways ... can you tell which is which?) ...

"Hey! Girlfriend. Hold my earrings while I take this mother down."

"Oh. Yeah. We did pickle juice shots when she stayed at my house that night, but she thought our pickle juice didn't taste right because it wasn't Kosher."

"You can't hurt me. I have a black belt in Jesus."

"Yeah. I had a pet cow when I was a little kid. My friends didn't believe me. So, one day when they were over at my house, they said they wanted to see my pet cow. I said sure and led them to the back of the house. You should have seen the looks on their faces when I opened the freezer and introduced them to Moo-Moo, my pet cow."
...

I love spending time with young adults ... well most of them. I did kick three girls out of the audience during a policy debate round because they were talking and giggling and texting ... AND disrupting the debate. I'm sure they had a few choice words to say about me out in the hallway. And, during another policy debate round, I interrupted because the AFF side refused to provide their evidence to the NEG side, and I quoted debate code to them. You should have heard the rude things they said! Oh. My. Gosh. I told them right then and there they'd lost the round for speaking to me that way, and they could either leave immediately or stay and finish the round. Surprisingly, they stayed and finished. But they still lost, and I made note on their ballot as to why.

And, yet, I still love judging! The time and effort these teenagers put into their preparation and the competitions is remarkable.

So, from the above four overheard comments, can you tell which ones happened casually out in the hallways and which ones were parts of prepared speeches?

Book Review: EXPLOSIVE EIGHTEEN

2012-01-21T03:00:00.000-08:00

Explosive Eighteen by Janet Evanovich

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

I can't help it ... I just LOVE Janet Evanovich!

Sure, Stephanie Plum is predictable; and sure, the plots aren't rocket science; but holy smokes ... if you can make me laugh out loud on one page and drop my jaw on another while reading your book ... well then, I guess I love you.

No, this wasn't my favorite Plum book, but I did enjoy it. It made me laugh, and it was a fun easy-to-read-escape-for-awhile book.

Here are the three reasons this book did not earn five stars from me:

1. I don't want Stephanie sleeping with two different guys. PICK ONE!

2. I can handle a few cuss words ... but there were a lot more than that in this book!

3. Rats. I don't really like reading about RATS! YIKES!! Eek.

I am REALLY looking forward to the first movie coming out this month, and I hope more movies with Stephanie Plum will follow! (And, I'm super happy with the PG-13 rating (not R)! YAY!)

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What book are you reading right now?

Book Review: WAVE ME GOODBYE

2012-01-20T03:00:00.000-08:00

Wave Me Goodbye by Jura Maclean Sherwood

My rating: 2 of 5 stars

Hmm.

I have mixed feelings about this book.

What I loved:

1. This story told a great bit of history I'd never heard of before: children evacuated from Britain during WWII - - sent across the ocean and attacked by the Germans. I just can't imagine sending my children across the ocean during wartime.

2. The writing was clean (structurally and content-wise).

What I did not like:

1. The majority of the characters were not well developed. Many secondary characters were contrived and stereotypical.

2. Writing dialect in dialogue is a challenge, and it was a burden to read in this story.

3. I wanted the story to be more about the journey of the children, but it focused on the love story between a woman assigned to care for the children and the soldier she loved.

4. Certain plot elements were frustrating. For example, the main character is nearly raped in a brutal manner, but her soldier stops the attack "just in time" ... BUT THEN he turns around and asks the attacker to take good care of her if he dies. WHAT? It's just brushed off like it's no big deal and didn't even happen.

5. A copy of the book was too hard to find to read. If you don't mind reading it on your computer, you can purchase a copy from Whiskey Creek Press for $5.99. Or you can purchase a bound copy directly from the author's website for $18. Luckily, I was able to borrow a copy from a friend to read.

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**Do you struggle to write a review when you didn't really care for a book?

**Or do you always just find something nice to say about it?

**Do you sugar coat your book reviews??

CRAFT: Word Choice Pt II

2012-01-18T03:00:00.000-08:00

Right ... so ... more on the topic of revising. (Can you tell where my mind has been lately?)

The other day, I grabbed my handy-dandy copy of THE ELEMENTS OF STYLE and flipped through my highlighted and tabbed pages. I wanted to make this the best revision of this ms possible! Page 73 reads:

"Avoid the use of qualifiers. Rather, very, little, pretty -- these are the leeches that infest the pond of prose, sucking the blood of words."

Yikes.

So, I used the "find" feature in MS Word and searched for these words. Holy Smokes! I thought I knew better than to use the word "very" in my writing. But there it was. Over and over AGAIN.

I did decide to leave the word "very" every once in a while in dialogue, but I deleted it from everywhere else. I almost didn't search for the word "pretty" because I thought I never used the word. Imagine my surprise when it showed up over and over AGAIN in my ms.

I think sometimes our mind becomes blind to certain words. Unnecessary words.

What do you think?

Do you think rather, very, little, and pretty are the "leeches" of prose?

CRAFT: Word Choices

2012-01-16T09:04:00.000-08:00

*sigh*

I thought I'd be extra efficient with my ms revisions and use the "find" feature in MS Word ... just to make sure I wasn't using certain words too many times.

I think I used the word AGAIN 247 times. Hmm. So, then, I thought okay, I can change or delete some of those! I went through and changed some to "once more" and others to "another time" and so on.

Here's how crazy I am: I didn't sleep well that night because I worried I had altered the "voice" of the character by changing all those words. ACK! Next morning I did the search again, only I searched for "once more" and really read the paragraph to make sure the change fit or if I really preferred the word "again" there. I did the same for "another time" ... sheesh. Talk about spending a lot of time accomplishing nothing.

Have you used the find feature and been shocked with your word choices?

What word do you use AGAIN and AGAIN?

CRAFT: Character Development Pt IV

2012-01-13T02:00:00.000-08:00

Great post on Darth Vader here: http://geoffreywebb.wordpress.com/2011/08/15/what-darth-vader-taught-me-about-people/

On Monday's post, Belle commented:
"I also think bad people changing is true in life and interesting in books. I will never forget the shock I felt when Darth Vader changed for the good in Star Wars. To see he had good feelings inside made his character more real."

Belle hit on a point that I absolutely LOVE: villians who have good traits.

"There's no villian so scary as one who is right." -- Donald Maass (THE FIRE IN FICTION, p.48)

YIKES!!

Have you worked on making your villian (or antagonist) likeable?

Think about the villian in your WIP and ask these questions:
1. What goodness does he have inside of him?
2. What does he say that is true?
3. Is your villian redeemable, like Darth Vader? Why or why not?

How about you?
Who is your favorite villian?

Great Blogfest Coming Up!!

2012-01-12T02:00:00.000-08:00

Oh! We interrupt the regularly scheduled series on character development for this great announcement:

Click here: Critique My Blog Blogfest for the complete details! Come on! All the cool kids are doing it ... well ... okay, maybe not the "cool kids" but writerly geeks like me are doing it ... SO COME ON! Join in. :)

CRAFT: Character Development Pt III

2012-01-11T02:00:00.000-08:00

And here's another great comment from Monday's post:

L.G. Smith over at Bards and Prophets blog wrote:
"A plot shouldn't just be a bunch of connected incidents and actions but a vehicle for the character's growth as a person."

Ah ... really? YES!!

David Baboulene over at Baboulene.com wrote (in THE STORY BOOK, p.120):
"Note that it is not the event which reveals a protagonist's character, but his reaction to the event. The action he takes defines his character. Similarly, it is not the event which drives the plot (as you might expect), but the action taken by the character that defines the event, and drives the plot."

Select a scene or chapter or event in your WIP and ask these questions:
1. What action does your character take to initiate this event?
2. How does your character react to the aftermath of this event?
3. How does your character change because of this event?

Do you agree with L.G. Smith that a plot is a vehicle for a character's growth?

CRAFT: Character Development Pt II

2012-01-10T06:07:00.000-08:00

WOW. Really great comments on yesterday's post. I had intended to go a certain direction with the followup posts on character development, but because of the comments, I've decided to do something different.

Let's focus on some of the great things you had to say.

Jennifer Shirk over at Me, My Muse, and I blog said:
"Well, for me I usually outline and start with each main character and ask, "What "lie" does he/she believe about her/himself or life in general?"

This is awesome! Why? Read it again. By acknowledging a LIE your character believes, you have instant conflict and tension.

Donald Maass over at Writer Unboxed wrote:
"... What is it that you—yes, you—least want to accept, refuse to feel, fear is true, find unbearable, feel angriest about, or avoid at any cost? What do you see around you that makes you sick? What in yourself makes you terrified?

Go further: What’s the truth that underlies all things? What principle guides human behavior? What’s the greatest insight you’ve even had about yourself? Or even just this: What do you know about anything that nobody else does?

Give any of the above to your protagonist and share the rest around with your other characters. ... " (to read the entire post, click link above for Writer Unboxed)

Building extreme conflicting emotions into your characters provides a wonderful road for them to travel throughout your manuscript.

Take a look at the characters in your WIP, and ask these three specific questions:
1. What lie does your character believe?
2. What will your character avoid at any cost?
3. What does your character know that no one else does?

What other tips do you have for developing a character?

CRAFT: Character Development

2012-01-09T02:00:00.000-08:00

I've been reading a lot of great books lately on the craft of writing, and I've been working hard revising two very different manuscripts. So ... ideas for improvements keep bouncing around in my head.

Today, I'm thinking about character development:

"Every single character ... must change in the course of your story. The only characters who don't change are the bad guys. But the hero and his friends change a lot" (Snyder, SAVE THE CAT, p.134).

"One of the top three factors in great stories is a clear progression of character growth across the course of the story. Someone, somewhere in your story must change and grow ..." (Baboulene, THE STORY BOOK, p.136).

How do you accomplish this? Do you simply write your story, give it to a beta reader, and ask if the mission has been achieved? Or do you need to map it out precisely and make sure that there is ENOUGH growth for each character? And, what constitutes "enough" growth? What tools and techniques can you utilize to accomplish this goal?

Well, instead of writing a huge long post today, I've decided to cover these questions in a series of posts over the coming week.

But for today, do you agree with Snyder above when he says, "EVERY SINGLE character ... must change ..." ??? Really ??? Every single one ???

A Quote for Inspiration

2012-01-06T02:00:00.000-08:00

“To write a breakout novel is to run free of the pack. It is to delve deeper, think harder, revise more, and commit to creating characters and plot that surpass one’s previous accomplishments. It is to say “no” to merely being good enough to be published. It is a commitment to quality” – Donald Maass (Writing the Breakout Novel, p.12).

Do you have a favorite writing quote to share?

IWSG: Appearing Foolish & Weak

2012-01-04T10:33:00.000-08:00

Why are writers insecure? I dunno, but I feel it necessary to belong to the Insecure Writer's Support Group. You can join, too, at: IWSG

According to the purpose of the group: "Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak."

*sigh*

After my FAFSA goof up yesterday, I am certainly feeling foolish.

And, here's 2012 ... yay ... right?

Here are my doubts and concerns:
1. What if my house is never clean?
2. What if I should just trash my current revision project, even though I love it?
3. What if my children need therapy and blame me for all of their problems?
4. What if I can never lose weight?
5. What if I can't master grammar rules? Or improve my plot designs?

Again *sigh* ... really ... this doesn't make me appear foolish or weak?

Well, if I resign to do something about those doubts and concerns, maybe not.

Solutions (numbers correspond to list above):
1. Hire a cleaning service and/or close doors to dirty rooms.
2. Try out new revision strategies on WIP and find new beta reader.
3. Eat more chocolate.
4. Eat more chocolate and wear bigger pajamas.
5. Read more books. Write more stories.

YAY! 2012! A new year with new possibilites.

It's all good.

FAFSA Stupidity

2012-01-03T21:58:00.000-08:00

Oh. My. Gosh.

Am I the stupidest person on the face of the earth? I feel like it right now.

I have two boys that are high school seniors this year, and so I must figure out all the college stuff and FAFSA (federal financial aid). *sigh*

So, today I googled FAFSA and clicked on the link for fafsa.com.

Big mistake.

But I didn't figure it out until I'd entered ALL our personal information (son's, mine, and husband's) social security numbers, birthdates, bank account balances, and so much more. It wasn't until I got to the final screen, where it asked for a credit card number, when I sat back and thought, WHAT?? (They wanted $79.99 to process the application.)

I scrolled down and read the teeny-tiny print at the bottom of the website. It said they were not affliated with the Department of Education and linked to the correct FAFSA website.

SHEESH!!

I clicked over to the correct site: http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/ and started over. Interestingly enough, the application took a fraction of the time and asked for a fraction of the information the other site did. Oh. My. Gosh.

Did I mention how stupid I feel? Is that other site going to steal our identities? I did go back to the other site and alter our information (changing it all to john doe and generic numbers). It wouldn't let me delete the account I had created.

Best & Worst Books of 2011

2011-12-30T02:00:00.000-08:00

I love to read! And, I love Goodreads.com, because it allows me the opportunity to look back at what I've read during 2011 ... and remember the joy (and pain) of some noteworthy books.

First, a few important notes:
1. These are books I read during 2011 ... not necessarily books that were published in 2011.
2. For the "best" list, I'm only considering the books I had rated five stars.
3. For the "worst" list, I'm only considering the books I had rated one star.

Drum roll please ...

Best books of 2011 (My top five favorites in order of preference):

The Worst Books of 2011 (I only gave three books this year a one-star rating, and they were all equally gag worthy ... blech):

To read my reviews for any or all of the above books, visit: http://www.goodreads.com/

I read less than normal in 2011 ... only 26 books.
How many books did you read in 2011?

And, if you don't know ... then sign up on Goodreads! It's fun! And, be sure to "friend" me on there when you do sign up!

3 Great Blog Posts

2011-12-28T02:00:00.000-08:00

I visited some really great sites during a blogfest middle of December, and about half way through, I wished I had kept a list of the best posts. So, I didn't start making notes until late in the game, but I wanted to share some of my favorites with you.

How to Write an Epic Adventure ... now interestingly enough, this post comes from a gaming site, but the concepts presented would help ANY writer take their story to the next level. Definitely worth stopping in and reading!

Create a Personal Universe Deck ... create a *what* ?? Seriously. At first, I scrunched up my eyebrows, and thought, what the heck are you talking about? But, after reading it twice (seriously, I can be a little slow-to-grasp sometimes) I realized what a great idea this is ... I had never heard of it before. I'm going to give it a test drive and see what happens. I let you know in a future post.

Traditional Publishing vs. Self Publishing ... I don't think this blog post was actually a part of the blogfest, but somehow I happened upon it, and I thought it presented a great discussion of the topic.

What's the best blog post or tip you've read recently?

Book Review: LUCKY STIFF

2011-12-26T18:03:00.000-08:00

Lucky Stiff by Deborah Coonts

My rating: 2 of 5 stars

Bummer!

Maybe my expectations were too high because I had enjoyed the first book so much ... or maybe this book just fell short. Either way, I had a hard time pushing through to finish the book.

What I loved about WANNA GET LUCKY? (the first book in the series):

1. Lucky O'Toole was in charge of customer relations at a big LV hotel, and she had great adventures solving customer problems.

2. Lucky wasn't involved in an annoying love-triangle. She actually picked a guy.

3. Lucky's boyfriend was a cross-dressing-female-impersonator for a big LV show.

4. Lucky was a self-confident kick-butt kind of gal.

5. The secondary characters were all a hoot.

6. The writing was great, and the plot kept me guessing.

What I hated about LUCKY STIFF (the second book in the series):

1. Lucky acted like she was everything BUT in charge of customer relations. She played the role of general manager, food & beverage manager, boss' daughter, nervous-nelly, and police detective.

2. Guys were panting after Lucky left and right ... why?

3. Lucky's boyfriend exited in the very beginning of the book. What? I wanted to see the whole self-confident-cross-dressing-female-impersonator character more!

4. Lucky whined and whined and whined - about everything imaginable, and when she wasn't whining, she was drowning her sorrows in alcohol. Really? *sigh*

5. The secondary characters ... well ... frankly, I was too annoyed by everything else to notice them much.

6. The writing seemed rushed, contrived, and lacking.

I don't understand why Coonts threw Lucky into the detective role instead of allowing her to be the customer relations expert we came to love in book one. Page 232 Lucky thinks: "There was a reason I wasn't a detective--I sucked at it." I agree. Go back to customer relations.

I'll give book three a try (because I loved book one so much), and then decide if I will continue with the series.

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What about you? Are you reading any series where one book has left you frustrated, but you continued on with the series? Were you glad you did or did not?

Merry Christmas!

2011-12-24T23:04:00.000-08:00

Merry Christmas!

"Adoration of the Shepherds" by Gerard van Honthorst, 1622

I hope your day is wonderful.

Creepy Stalker Songs

2011-12-23T02:00:00.000-08:00

source: www.bryanadams.com

Well, as I finished up revisions on my ms (which has a creepy stalker dude in it) ... I am finding creepy stalker details in various aspects of my real life.

YIKES!

I had the radio on in the house, and one of my favorite Bryan Adams' songs came on. I remembered the words, and it brought back sweet memories of growing up in the 80's.

Then, the very next day I heard the same song on the radio in the car. Which surprised me. I listened more closely to the words and got chills. This is a creepy stalker song!

YIKES!!

CLICK HERE to watch the official Bryan Adams Video

And, then I was researching song lyrics for my ms revisions, and stumbled across a website that listed the creepiest song lyrics ever - - and this Bryan Adams song was listed as the creepiest!!

I tried to embed the video here for you - - but that option was disabled - - so, take a quick click on the link above and listen to the words! It talks about dying and sacrificing and fighting ... all for you.

YIKES!!!

"You know it's true, everything I do ... oh ... I do it for you."

What's the creepiest stalker dude song you can remember?

How I Got My Agent!!

2011-12-21T02:00:00.000-08:00

I'm a believer in writing short blog posts. If you're a believer in reading short posts, then simply read the next sentence, skip down to the bottom, and leave a comment; that will work out fine. :)

Short story:
I wrote a query letter, and she liked it.

or ... check out the ...

Long story:

2009, January: I decided I wanted to change careers and pursue a long forgotten dream of becoming a published author (sound familiar?). I purchased Janet Evanovich's HOW I WRITE and Writer's Digest's GUIDE TO LITERARY AGENTS, and I began my research into the industry.

2009, July: I finished my first manuscript, MANIFESTED, and I started sending out query letters.

2009, August: Rejections started flooding in. I thought I had a pretty tough skin. I knew rejections were part of the process, but one in particular really bothered me. The agency's website had listed SO MANY specifics of what needed to go into a query for them to consider your project; it was a lot of work to tailor my query letter to meet their exact specifications, but I did it. So ... when I received back (via snail mail) a form rejection that was crookedly photocopied and addressed Dear Author ... for some reason that one rejection sent me over the edge. I lit it on fire. Literally. I went outside with a match and sent the piece of paper up in flames. I found it quite liberating. And, then I went back to work and sent out more query letters.

2009, Fall: In the meantime, I knew (based on my industry research) that the most important thing I could do after finishing my first manuscript was to start the next one. And, that's what I did. But, I also, bought more books on the craft of writing, subscribed to magazines and journals that would help me better my skills, and wrote flash fiction to tighten my story telling. And, I hooked up with some great critique partners that I met through the Writer's Digest Community online.

source: http://simplenda.com/tag/winter-rocks

2010, April: Even though I'd received requests for partials and fulls, I came to the harsh realization that my first manuscript, MANIFESTED kinda-blew-chunks-even-though-my-kids-thought-it-was-great (aka was-not-so-good) in the writing department. I shelved it and stopped sending out query letters for it. I focused my time and effort on learning the craft of writing and finishing my next manuscript.

source: http://jessica.mumstudent.com/2011/02/12/slow-down-embrace-the-spring-for-rest/

2010, August: I finished my second manuscript, THE EDUCATION OF THIA, and started sending out query letters.

2010, September: I received a very different response from agents regarding this ms vs the first one. I received quite a few requests for partials and fulls right away, and I just KNEW this was going to be "it!" I was so excited!! When rejections came back from the full requests, I paid attention to the feedback received from the agents. But it was tricky, because while one said, "The main character is too naive" another said, "The main character sounds too adult." Okay. Revisions, none-the-less.

2010, October: With a bright and shiny revised version of THE EDUCATION OF THIA, I headed off to my first ever writer's conference. I met up with my first critique partner, Melissa, who'd I'd met through the WD Community, and we had an absolute blast at the conference. Furthermore, I left the conference with two agents requesting the full ms, and they were very excited about the pitch I'd given them. I just KNEW this was IT!! One of these fantabulous agents was going to offer me a contract. Yes-sir-ee!! Let's celebrate! I went home too excited to work on any writing. I was waiting to hear from the agents. I stopped sending out queries, because I knew one of these agents was gonna be THE ONE!! Wahoo!!

2010, November: I sent very polite follow-up emails to the agents who'd requested fulls at the conference. Both responded right away explaining how busy they were (of course, I get that, I want them to take care of their current clients first, that makes sense). But I was extremely demoralized. I couldn't seem to start a new ms. So, I pulled out MANIFESTED and dusted it off. I figured I could work on rewriting it and improving it until I found my writing mojo again.

2010, December: I started sending out new query letters for THE EDUCATION OF THIA. I changed the title, twice, and changed the query letter many times. I stopped getting requests for partials or fulls for it. Just rejections, or worse yet, no responses at all.

source: http://www.winterwanderland.com/

2011, February: Received email from one conference agent (who had been SO EXCITED about my pitch) telling me that she had decided to shelve my ms, unread. She was no longer looking for new clients, but when she was ready to look again, she'd read the ms then.

2011, May: Received email from second conference agent (who had been SO EXCITED about my pitch) apologizing for the delay in reading my ms. She said the writing was great, but it just didn't excite her. *sigh*

2011, Summer: I went through ups and downs working on rewrites of MANIFESTED, sending query letters for BUT HE LOVES ME (aka The Education of Thia), and trying to rekindle my passion for writing. But, honestly, I was bummed! The "conference experience" had messed up my motivation and broken through my tough skin.

2011, September: I was diagnosed with a pineocytoma, or a cyst, or a tumorous module, or a lesion, or something (ah ... my love for the medical community really soared during this time period). I became distracted with that process and forgot about writing for awhile. But, when the doctors decided it was too dangerous to remove the 12mm thing in the middle of my brain, I had to decide if I was going to be happy or sad and move forward. I chose to be happy and get back to writing.

2011, Fall: I decided I would finish my rewrite of MANIFESTED, and I seriously got back to work. I wanted to achieve my goal. I had hit a tough spot in 2011, but I was finally ready to pick myself back up and get back to what I loved: writing.

Hold on to your seats, here comes the exciting part ...

2011, November (aka 11-11-11): I sent out 11 queries for BUT HE LOVES ME. The eleventh agent (for reals!) I queried that day requested a partial the same day (it was a Friday). Monday, she requested the full. Wednesday, she requested a phone call. Thursday, we discussed ideas for revisions. I LOVED all of her ideas, and my MOJO exploded with excitement!! She said if I could accomplish these revisions, she'd offer me formal representation. So, I put my head down and got to work. I was on fire!! I sent her the revised ms about a week and a half later (I know, I know, it's sounds like I rushed it, but I'm telling you: I was ON FIRE!!). She read it right away and requested more revisions. At first I was sad I'd missed the mark, but then I realized, she didn't reject me; she wanted to keep working with me!! So, I got right back to work on more revisions. YAY! I was still so excited about the process of writing and revising. And I was SO THRILLED to think that someone had caught the "vision" of my story. So, while I was busy working on more revisions. She surprised me and mailed me a contract!!! ACK!

2011, December (aka 12-12 (for reals!) 2011): Brianne Johnson of Writers House sent me a contract for representation. And, I haven't stopped smiling since. My husband got up in the middle of the night last night to go pee (I know, TMI), and it woke me up. I couldn't go back to sleep, because I was just so excited about the fact that I, Margo Kelly, have an agent!!! YAY!

So ... that's how I got my agent.

Simple formula for getting an agent = write a manuscript, research the industry, get a critique partner, listen to feedback, revise, revise, revise, write a query, revise it, send query, revise it, write another ms, research the industry, learn from the research, better your skills, revise your query, never give up, keep writing, send more query letters, find another critique partner, listen to feedback, write more, learn more, never give up, send more queries, revise, revise, revise, write more, research more, ... and eat chocolate, lots and lots of chocolate ... and then start the process all over again.

Oh wait ... maybe that's not a simple formula.

How about you?
Do you think there is a "simple formula" for getting an agent? If so, what is it? :0)

So ... You Have an Agent ... What Does That Mean?

2011-12-19T02:00:00.001-08:00

haha

The one question I received more than any other this weekend (from non-writerly-people) was, "I heard you got an agent. Congrats. But, so, you have an agent ... what does that mean? Can't you just go onto Amazon and publish your stories without an agent?"

Well, I'd like to answer this way, "It means I get to jump around the house and dance all day."

haha

Right. I suppose I could have done that before signing a contract with an agent. But, it is simply so much more fun WITH one.

haha

Okay. Maybe I'm still a little too giddy with joy to write a realistic post about anything. :)

But, I'll try to answer the question.

Here's what it means to have an agent:
1. Validation. Someone who works in the publishing industry thinks my manuscript is of worth. (yeah, yeah, I know ... I should reach deep within myself and find value with my own self-worth ... whatever.)
2. One Small Step (in the publishing industry) One Giant Leap (for the writer trying to break into traditional publishing) ... I'm one step (leap) closer to my goal of having my manuscript published and on the shelf in a book store.
3. Cheerleader. I have an agent on my side cheering me on and shouting to others about the story I've written.
4. A Ticket to the Party. An agent gives me access to editors and publishers that I didn't have prior.

A few of you have asked various questions in the comments of the previous post, and I will be thrilled to tell you more of the story. Check back for a more-down-to-earth-with-less-dancing post Wednesday. :) Well ... maybe I shouldn't make promises ... I'm kinda enjoying the writerly high I'm flying on ... haha!

What about you? Do you have an agent? Want an agent? Or do you think they're unnecessary?

I Have an Agent!! WAHOO!!

2011-12-16T10:38:00.000-08:00

Guess what I did today?

Hey - don't judge me just because I look like a chipmunk! I was a little excited! Merry Christmas to ME!

I signed a contract with Brianne Johnson at Writer's House Literary Agency!!!
Look how awesome the agency is: CLICK HERE
Look how awesome Brianne is: CLICK HERE

I guess that wall-of-revisions (see post from a few days ago) really paid off!! But, maybe I should have put some make-up on before taking this picture. Sheesh! YAY ME!

Do RULES really exist?

2011-12-16T02:00:00.000-08:00

In honor of a great blogfest ( CLICK HERE to check it out ) ... I'm re-posting a little-rant-item that originally saw the light of day over eighteen months ago on my blog. How do you feel about "being" verbs? Hmm? I wonder if I've grown as a writer since originally posting this ... LOL.

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I've read on many agent blogs various reasons why debut novelists are rejected. One such blog led me to a list of "mistakes" new writers often make. I thought it was an awesome list. You can find it here:

The Ten Mistakes

So, after finding this list, I chose one item (number six on the list) and went through my first manuscript and worked to correct that "mistake."

The website explains, "Once your eye is attuned to the frequent use of the “to be” words – “am,” “is,” “are,” “was,” “were,” “be,” “being,” “been” and others – you’ll be appalled at how quickly they flatten prose and slow your pace to a crawl. The “to be” words represent the existence of things – “I am here. You are there.”"

Okay fine. I improved my manuscript.

I read a lot of books. And, at the time I was working on these revisions, I was reading the second Frankenstein book in Dean Koontz's series. So, I put his book to the test. I was shocked to read five pages before he used a single "being" verb. Shocked. But then, reading the third book in Koontz's series, my head exploded. There were "being" verbs in every sentence (exaggeration, obviously). I thought, what the heck? But, then I decided, well ... it is Dean Koontz, he can do whatever he wants. He's not trying to get an agent and publish a debut novel.

BUT THEN, I'm reading Beautiful Creatures by Garcia and Stohl which is a debut novel. There are five being verbs on the first page and twenty-one in the first chapter (not even two and a half pages long).

It's a New York Times bestseller and an international bestseller. Hmm.

So, not only did they use being verbs, but they also got an agent, got a publisher, and are selling a TON of books.

Great. Maybe I should go back through my manuscript and put all of the being verbs back in it.

Or not.

Who is to say what the "rules" really are in writing a book? What's the trick? Is it just about story concept? I don't think so. I think it has to be a great story concept, and I think the writing needs to be above par.

What "rules" do you love/hate?
Do you even believe in RULES!?

Extreme REVISIONS - What Would YOU Do?

2011-12-14T03:00:00.000-08:00

I know writing "the end" on your first draft of a manuscript is pretty exciting ... but certain elements of the revision process thrill me just as much. It's like working a jigsaw puzzle ... but certain parts of the picture change during the process and you must adapt and move with it.

Quite awhile ago (sorry, I can't remember when or where) I came across a writer's blog that featured pictures of her revision process: pages spread out on the floor and taped across a wall. I remember being shocked and thinking, "Sheesh! That looks like a LOT of work!" So, I never tried that approach for myself. ha. Why work? Writing is supposed to be fun! :)

However, I've been in the trenches revising and revamping one of my manuscripts. And I needed a new approach. I needed to see the conversations between the main character and the "bad guy" in a new light. I needed my brain to process the information differently. Find something ...

And I remembered those crazy pictures of pages taped to a wall.

So, I printed out all of the conversations between my main character and three other characters (one is the real bad guy and two are potential bad guys to keep the reader guessing). I even used different colored paper to help me quickly spot who was participating in the conversation.

And I taped them to the wall:

It took a long time to print the pages out, and it took a long time to tape them to the wall.

I doubted the process and the time invested, but I went through the WHITE pages first ... twice ... and it wasn't until the third pass that my brain clicked and saw the words in a different way.

I had a big AHA moment. YAY!

I quickly started to scribble modifications in pencil. And then I grabbed a blue highlighter and started to write the emotions on the pages in big letters so I could stand back and see the progression of the relationship. I used red stars to mark certain types of moments and yellow stars to mark others. Then I attacked the colored pages.

My kids came home from school and their eyes bulged out ... they thought I'd gone a bit crazy! ha.

This morning, I went through the pages on the wall again and was thrilled to realize how well everything now flows. Success!

Was it worth the effort? Absolutely.

Will I do it again ... only if necessary! :)

What's your most extreme method for revising?

Book Review: LIGHTNING by Dean Koontz

2011-12-12T05:36:00.000-08:00

Lightning by Dean Koontz

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Aha!

Terminator meets The Time Traveler's Wife.

Yup ... Well ... Kinda.

No killer robots were involved.

But, as I read this book, I kept thinking of the timeline for The Time Traveler's Wife ... how at first it was tricky to follow. Same with Lightning, but once you get in the groove, it's fun. And like Terminator, some guy is trying to save some girl for some reason. But, also like Terminator, the girl soon learns that the guy won't always be around, and so she'd better hurry up and stock-pile lots of illegal weapons to protect herself with ... hahaha.

Great book. Loved it.

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OH NO! Santa is a Stalker!

2011-12-09T06:00:00.000-08:00

I've been knee-deep in revisions for my internet predator manuscript, and Monday night I took a break to watch The Sing Off (love it) ... and had a terribly disturbing revelation afterward.

Santa is a Stalker!

Think about it for a minute:

You better watch out (and look behind you!)

You better not cry (cuz he preys on weaklings)
Better not pout (cuz that annoys him)
I'm telling you why (listen to me, I've researched this!)
Santa Claus is coming to town (to get you!)

He's making a list, (of all your personal information)
And checking it twice; (so the police can't nab him)
Gonna find out Who's naughty and nice. (cuz he preys on weaklings!)
Santa Claus is coming to town (to abduct you!)

He sees you when you're sleeping (cuz he's a creeper!)
He knows when you're awake (cuz he's a stalker!)
He knows if you've been bad or good
So be good for goodness sake! (and call the police!)

O! You better watch out! (and look behind you!)
You better not cry. (cuz he preys on weaklings!)
Better not pout, I'm telling you why.
Santa Claus is coming to town. (to abduct you!)

Santa Claus is coming to town. (call the police!)

picture source: http://daredevyl283.wordpress.com/2009/12/18/santa-clause/

HO! HO! HO!

Are you a believer?

Share & Encourage - Insecure Writer's Support Group

2011-12-07T02:00:00.000-08:00

The first purpose of the Insecure Writer's Support Group is to share and encourage.

So ... let me SHARE some of my favorite things:

Oh ... wait ... maybe I was supposed to SHARE things directly related to writing? :-) Frankly, the above items ARE related to writing, because they relieve my stress and enable me to focus on delicious sensations to improve my writing efforts. Yeah. That's WRITE!

Now, let me encourage you:

If only we, as writers, could be determined as the character "Salt" ... we could accomplish all of our writerly goals. Watch a movie with a strong female protagonist (or male, if you're a man!) and get inspired to kick butt!

Buy these handy little pens and change the way you read - - fiction and non-fiction. When you're going through a book, for pleasure and for knowledge, highlight a passage that you find particularly inspiring or motivating and flag the ones that matter most to you. This process makes you consider the writing more deeply and helps you remember what it was about the book that inspired you.

Do you mark books while you read?

Generating Blog Traffic

2011-12-05T07:00:00.000-08:00

Do you ever look at the "stats" for your blog ... and then look at the top keywords searched, that brought traffic to your blog?

Should I be concerned that "Hairy Russian Women" was searched for and brought two people to my blog? What does that mean exactly? ha!

Some time back, I wrote two blog posts about my kids (simply because young adults make me laugh, and I thought my blog readers would get a kick out of the stories):

Dumpster Diving
Can You See the Sweat on the Back of My Shirt?

These two posts continue to get a ton of random hits from Google searches every day. Apparently, a LOT of people are interested in both topics ... again ... what does that mean exactly?

And, yet, on a more realistic note, you can use those keyword statistics to help you formulate new posts that might generate new traffic and lead to new followers. For example, over the weekend, a lot of people searched for book reviews of BEFORE I FALL by Lauren Oliver. This brought new traffic to my blog. So, this tells me, that people are actively searching for book reviews. Great validation for reading MORE BOOKS! Yay me. :)

So, while these keyword searches may prompt me to post more book reviews, I can promise you one thing: I will not be prompted to write anything (other than this very post) about hairy Russian women. YIKES!!

What type of posts on your blog continue to get large hits from random Google searches? Does it surprise you?

SARAH'S KEY by Tatiana De Rosnay

2011-12-02T11:11:00.001-08:00

Well ... it's not often that a movie version moves me as much (or nearly as much) as the original book. But, I watched SARAH'S KEY last night, and, found myself gasping and crying in several places, and it took me straight back to the feelings I had when I first read the book.

Read my review of the book HERE!

I highly recommend the movie. I'm not a fan of subtitles, but I really enjoyed this and was not distracted by the reading involved. :)

My husband watched it with me, and he's not read the book. He was moved. He said it wasn't his favorite, but he enjoyed it.

I loved it, and will definitely be purchasing my own copy of the movie for my collection.

Critique Partners: Providing Thorough Critiques

2011-11-30T05:30:00.000-08:00

How do you provide a great critique of someone else's writing?

Here are some points to keep in mind, first:
1. Be polite: comment on things you do like about the writing
2. Be honest: give your true opinions
3. Be aware: give accurate advice
4. Be helpful: make suggestions for improvement

Next, before you can be a great critique partner, you need to read a book on the craft of writing (in my humble opinion!). Once you've read a book, you will know what to look for when critiquing.

Here's a short list for starters:
SELF-EDITING FOR FICTION WRITERS by Browne & King
THE ELEMENTS OF STYLE by Strunk & White
THE FIRE IN FICTION by Maass

Then, use the review bubbles in Word to leave comments on the Word document. These bubbles make it very easy to quickly make suggestions for improvement in the ms.

Give accurate advice. I know with one of my CPs, I was nagging her about her use of ellipses. I began to wonder if I was being accurate, so I googled it. After reading advice on several websites, I realized I was wrong. Check out this site if you'd like to test your own knowledge: http://grammar.quickanddirtytips.com/

Researching specific topics and reading books on the craft will help improve your eye.

By giving excellent critiques for others, you will improve your own writing. Your eye will become more fine tuned to the details of writing and your writing muscles will become stronger from the exercise!!

What do you look for in your critiques?

[post originally publised 3-3-11 ... for more tips on critique partners, click on the tag]

Book Review: BEFORE I FALL by Lauren Oliver

2011-11-28T06:54:00.000-08:00

Before I Fall by Lauren Oliver

My rating: 3 of 5 stars

GROUNDHOG DAY meets MEAN GIRLS.

Need I say more? Well, of course, I need to say more.

The author's writing was wonderful. The way she weaved details into the ever-repeating day was wonderful. But, the main character was not wonderful.

And really, the only reason I gave this book 3 stars instead of 5 is because I had to FORCE myself to keep reading past page 100. Everyone had claimed this book was great - - but I really dread reading about an unlikeable main character. Yes, of course, she grows throughout the story and changes, but does that make up for the first 100 pages??

And, the only reason I gave this book 3 stars instead of 1 star, is because I couldn't stop thinking about the book, the characters and the plotline, for quite awhile after I finished reading it. It really stuck with me.

This is considered a YA book. So, a note regarding that: the day that keeps repeating involves drinking, driving, sex, and a party. Over and over and over again. Take that into consideration before letting your 12 yr-old read this book.

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FEAR of Your Lover IS an Aphrodisiac!

2011-11-25T02:00:00.000-08:00

So, last post I delved into the topic of Bella and Edward from TWILIGHT, and how she fears he might drink her blood. I also mentioned that a smart person from another blog wrote:

Fear of your lover should not be an aphrodisiac.

Well ... whether it should be or should not be ... it is.

Think about it. Some women have:
1. One Night Stands
2. Affairs
3. Fantasies of being with the bad boy
4. Flirt fests with the bouncer/linebacker/drug dealer/teacher/best friend's boyfriend/boss/etc.

All of the above items (and more?) involve an element of fear. Fear of your lover and the potential harm he could cause to you and/or your family.

But! I'd like to take it a step further and have you consider that fear is also an aphrodisiac with a SAFE boy/man/lover/husband. Seriously. Unless you're a rock, you have feelings. Feelings that could be dangerous if you trust the wrong person or even the right person at the wrong time or in the wrong place. Otherwise, why would people have sex in elevators, on airplanes, in libraries, in movie theaters? They do these things because they have become safe in their relationship and they want to bring back some of the fear-aphrodisiac.

Even if you and your safe partner only have safe sex in a safe place, there can still be an element of fear. During sex you are exposing yourself more than at any other moment. If something, anything, goes wrong, your inner most core could be damaged. What could go wrong with a safe partner in a safe place? A lot of things. Just use your imagination.

But! Let's take it even a step further. Maybe it's not FEAR at all that is the actual aphrodisiac.

Maybe, in fact, it is TRUST.

Trust that even though your boyfriend wants to drink your blood, you have faith that he loves you more than that blood-drinking-desire. Trust that your football-playing-linebacker will leave his aggression on the field and never hit you. Trust that your safe-devoted-husband will never make fun of your ever-growing-love-handles.

Trust trumps fear.
And, that, is the climactic aphrodisiac.

Fear of Your Lover Should not be an Aphrodisiac

2011-11-23T02:00:00.000-08:00

I took the above title from Regina Barreca, Ph.D.. She wrote a series of blog posts for Psychology Today on the topic of the TWILIGHT phenomenon and why teens love it, and she hates it.

Sometimes, I am a little slow, and so I had to read the words a second time. Here, you can, too:

Fear of Your Lover Should not be an Aphrodisiac

So, what do you think about that? Do you agree that Bella's fear of Edward drinking her blood is an aphrodisiac? And do you think this concept is damaging to teenage girls? ... heck ... all women?

Do you think some girls/women date men, love men, because they are dangerous? What about when you were a teenager? Were you attracted to the dangerous boys or to the safe boys?

Regardless of where the feminist movement has brought us, most of the teenage girls I know still lack self-esteem. I don't think it's something you can GIVE to another person. I think it is something they must learn and discover for themselves. It just so happens that most of us go through that learning phase as young women. But, I know plenty of women (including myself to a certain extent) who continue to struggle late into their lives with self-esteem issues.

So, if there's a man totally devoted to your every desire and need, is that enough? Or does there need to be an element of danger as well? And frankly, is it healthy to hope for, want, or need a man to be THAT devoted to you? Shouldn't he have a life of his own? Hobbies? Friends?

Should ESL Students Receive Extra Consideration?

2011-11-21T02:00:00.000-08:00

Saturday, I spent 12 hours judging high school debate competitions. I love it. I love watching the teenagers interact. And I love listening to them converse with one another before, during, and after a competition.

The thing I don't love is being told to be nicer to the students when filling out my ballot sheet. Am I really the only adult who thinks teenagers should be told the truth? Don't get me wrong ... I don't write on the ballot: "You're ugly. You're snotty. Your breath stinks."

Instead, I give a compliment first, and then note the negative things (if any) about their presentation. If I don't ... how can they know what to improve on? For example, one mean thing I wrote (after giving a compliment) was: "If you feel the need to constantly fidget with the hemline of your skirt, maybe you should consider wearing something else next time, because the fidgeting is very distracting." Another mean thing I wrote, "Your facial expression comes across as very angry. Is this what you want to portray?"

My daughter is a competitor, and she would rather the judge tell her what she could improve on, specifically, rather than give vague generic responses.

So ... I turned in a ballot at the tabulation table, and a debate coach (teacher) from one of the high schools handed the ballot back to me, and said, "You scored them too low. Rescore it."

I (being the kind lovely patient person that I am) said, "No."

The coach turned to the coach sitting next to her and said, "Are you going to let her get away with this?"

HA. Clearly, she does not know me.

The second judge said, "Were they really that bad?"

I said, "Yes. I scored them appropriately."

Second coach lowered her voice and said, "Well, this competitor is an English-Second-Language student, so maybe we should just give her some extra consideration."

WHAT?! Heck no.

I don't care if English is your second language. I've judged PLENTY of foreign-exchange students (this student was not a foreign-exchange student), and they've performed excellently.

Heck no.

I asked my 15-year-old daughter if she thought I was being too mean (granted, she's biased and may be in fear of punishment or something) ... she agreed with my reasoning. How can someone improve if the only thing they ever hear is, "Great job!" ??

Now, I have to tell you, I judged a lot of competitions Saturday that were blow-your-mind-amazing. These students are SO SMART. Debating about complicated moral, ethical, and governmental issues ... they were prepared, well spoken, and sharp. It was a pleasure to watch, and I was so sad that one of them would not advance because of my decision. And, that especially, is when I think it's crucial for a judge to explain on the ballot why one person was chosen over the other.

Another thing to note, when my daughter and I first arrived, we walked through the cafeteria (where the students congregate and wait for their next debate), and I smiled, because everyone was squeaky clean and smelling good. At the end of the day, that cafeteria is NOT where you want to be! Then, they are sweaty, stinky, and sporting their slippers, pj's, and hoodies. Evolution.

Anyhow. The question of the day is: Do you think ESL students should be given extra consideration (whether in class or in a competition)??

Tips for Writers, Sort of ... by Deborah Coonts

2011-11-18T02:00:00.000-08:00

I'm thrilled to have a guest post today, by Deborah Coonts!

Deborah Coonts, author of Lucky Stiff, says her mother tells her she was born in Texas a very long time ago, though she's not totally sure -- her mother can't be trusted. But she was definitely raised in Texas on barbeque, Mexican food and beer. She currently resides in Las Vegas, where family and friends tell her she can't get into too much trouble. Silly people. Coonts has built her own business, practiced law, flown airplanes, written a humor column for a national magazine, and survived a teenager. She is the author of the Lucky O'Toole Las Vegas adventure series.

Her first book, Wanna Get Lucky? was released in 2010.

Tips for Writers, Sort Of

By Deborah Coonts,

I don't do rules.

Which is probably not a bad thing when it comes to writing. Writing is art -- a word-picture born in self-expression. And, as a creative endeavor, there is a bit of coloring outside the lines necessary to distinguish your story, to capture attention.

This sounded so perfect for a story-lover with an authority issue . . . namely me.

With the misplaced confidence of someone ignorant of the concept to terminal velocity, I stepped out on the fiction tightrope with no instruction, no one to grab me if I put a foot wrong, no net to save a bruised ego if I plunged headlong into the chasm.

And I was doing so well, at first. Then I ran into a blank white page with the two most feared words in the writing world: Chapter One. Two words into my masterpiece and I'd crashed to the ground, bloodied and broken. The one thing that was abundantly clear was that I hadn't clue as to how to tackle a project a large as a novel. Where to begin?

So I turned to the world's ringmaster -- Google. They they choreograph the information of our lives like a dance of Elephants, so they surely they could focus a spotlight on my little ring in the circus?

And shine a light they did. I had no idea the wealth of "dos and don'ts" (I refuse to call them rules), tips, guidelines, ways, points, dangers, signs, and fundamentals. While I clung firmly to the trapeze of "writing is art," I quickly realized that if you swing to far on that trapeze, you're going to miss the hand-off guy . . . namely, readers. They have expectations that we as writers must acknowledge. Stories must be accessible, engrossing, entertaining, and readable. That's all well-and-good, but I needed specifics. I didn't even know what to write, much less how.

Best place to start seemed to be with the what. Back to Google.

The first suggestion was: "write what you know." At the time, the sum total of my knowledge came from being a harried single mom and depreciated tax lawyer. My life didn't even entertain me.

The next suggestion, "write what you read." Okay, I could get my head around that. Romantic suspense was my drug of choice. Watch out Sandra Brown. Fingers flying, I burned up the computer, along with the midnight oil. When the light dawned, and I came out of my writing-induced coma, I had learned one thing: I was definitely not Sandra Brown.

With two strikes against me, I braced for the next pitch. "Write what you can imagine." I was in business. I'd spent my life wandering with my head in the clouds -- I could imagine almost anything. Synapses fired and I imagined an overworked young woman who was Head of Customer Relations at a large Vegas Strip hotel with a former hooker as a mother, an absent father, and Vegas's foremost Female Impersonator as a best friend who wanted to be more. It became Wanna Get Lucky?, my first published novel.

I picked up my own "rules" for writing a novel along the way. Some of them might be of interest even if you don't do rules.

RULE ONE: PACK YOUR BAGS

Stuff all your meetings, to-do lists, commitments, and hobnobbing in a trunk and send it packing. Writing is a turbulent journey taken solo with only a small carry-on allowed. You can put the "have-tos" in that carry-on -- like checking in on the kids every week or so, spending enough time with your spouse/significant other that he/she still remembers your name, and talking to friends often enough they don't call Missing Persons. Make time to play with words and zealously guard that time. Your dreams are worth it.

RULE TWO: LEARN THE ROPES

Since language is the skeleton of storytelling, learn the basics -- sentence structure, active versus passive voice, showing not telling, etc. Find a teacher, class, or workshop to learn how to communicate. Then when you're able to make those first steps, don't ask anyone where to go. Imagine.

RULE THREE: DON'T LOOK BACK

What happens in every thriller flick when the driver gets in and looks in the rearview mirror? Struggle, choke, death. Your internal editor is that bad-guy lurking in the backseat ready to slit your throat. Do let him get in the car. Instead, put the pedal to the metal and leave that self-edit strangler with a mouthful of dust.

And those lingering doubts about your ability? They are sketchy hitchhikers jonesing to break your stride. Shift, pass, and don't look back.

RULE FOUR: NETWORK WISELY

Surround yourself with other writers (NOT family -- they can't be trusted). Take energy from the camaraderie. Get input -- but use only what you consider valid. Trust your gut. It's your story. Remember, opinions may not be offered with the best of intentions.

RULE FIVE: WRITE

Get words on paper. Lots of them. I don't care if it's from a plane, train, hotel, locker room, unemployment line, breakdown lane, edge of a cliff; just write.

RULE SIX: PERSEVERE

Remember, quit is a four-letter word.

© 2011 Deborah Coonts, author of Lucky Stiff

For more information please visit http://www.deborahcoonts.com/, and follow the author on Facebook and Twitter.

Twilight Anticipation

2011-11-16T02:00:00.000-08:00

What's that I smell in the air?

Ah ... yes ... it's the anticipation for the next movie installment of the Twilight Saga. Mmm. Hmm. That's right!

So, in honor of Friday's big event, I'd like to share with you one of my favorite movie scenes: when Jasper flips the bat. :) The video is below ... feel free to fast forward to 1 minute 44 seconds. That's where it happens. haha.

What's your favorite Twilight movie scene?

And, heaven forbid, if you are a Twilight-hater, what is your favorite scene from some-other-movie? :)

Visit back on Friday for a guest post from a wonderful author!! :-)

A to Z Challenge

2011-11-14T02:00:00.000-08:00

Put it on your calendar.

I know ... seems so far away ... but this is an exhausting marathon of a blog hop. However, the challenge is rewarding (personally). So, check it out, sign up, and start preparing now for the big event.

For more information: a-to-zchallenge.com

To read my posts from last year, click on the April 2010 link in the sidebar. Some of the posts continue in my most popular posts list.

Have you heard of any great upcoming blog hops? Do you hate blog hops?

Insecure Writer's Support Group

2011-11-11T02:00:00.000-08:00

I found something GREAT! Check out this wondeful group by CLICKING HERE!

Look for my first "group" post on the first Wednesday of December. (The official group posting day.)

Seasons & How They Represent Us

2011-11-09T02:00:00.000-08:00

I *was* going to write a thought provoking post about seasons and how they represent so many aspects of our lives ... but instead, here's a video that expresses much of what I wanted to say:

Albacore & Canker Sore

2011-11-07T02:00:00.000-08:00

bwhahahaha ... before I started this post, I did a little Google search ... the BEST result:

Rhymes with METAPHOR (from: Merriam-Webster.com)

albacore, ... at death's door, ... Barrymore, canker sore, carnivore, ... commodore, ... corridor, ... dinosaur, ... Ecuador, either-or, Eleanor, elector, ... general store, go in for, guarantor, ... herbivore, heretofore, humidor, in line for, ... Labrador, licensor, Lipitor, ... man-of-war, manticore, matador, meteor, micropore, Minotaur, mirador, more and more, ... pompadour, predator, promisor, pterosaur, saddle sore, ... sycamore, ... troubadour, tug-of-war, two-by-four, uncalled-for, underscore, ... warrantor

Do I need to say more?

Be VERY glad I did NOT use a picture of a canker sore ... YIKES!!

Well, okay two more things:

Definition of metaphor (Merriam-Webster.com):

a figure of speech in which a word or phrase literally denoting one kind of object or idea is used in place of another to suggest a likeness or analogy between them (as in drowning in money)

Great example of metaphor:

"The guy was starting to creep me out. Still, as far as creeps go, he was a benchwarmer in the minor leagues. I played in the majors" (WANNA GET LUCKY? page 29).

Do you utilize metaphors in your writing?

Hyperbole: An Extreme Exaggeration

2011-11-04T02:00:00.000-07:00

Warning: PET LOVERS ... don't be offended by the following words ... it's just a hyperbole! :)

My dog is so ugly, he only has cats as friends.

Come on ... did it make you smile, just a little?!

Yes, it did.

First, I just like saying and thinking the word: hyperbole. I feel smarter just for knowing how to pronounce it.

Second, these can be so stinkin' funny ... but I have to admit, sometimes I have to scrunch my eyebrows before I fully understand certain ones.

According to YourDictionary.com:
"A hyperbole is an extreme exaggeration used to make a point. They would not be used in nonfiction works, like medical journals or research papers, but are perfect for fictional works, especially to add color to a character or humor to the story. Hyperboles are comparisons, like similes and metaphors, but are extravagant and even ridiculous."

Consider the following examples from Worsleyschool.net:
"My sister wears so much make-up, she leaves a color trail behind her when she walks," Grant K.
"My teacher is so old, she taught cave men how to start a fire," Aaron H.
"Saskatchewan is so flat, you can see your dog run away for 4 days!" Jenna.

HOWEVER, you must be careful when using hyperbole to avoid the dreaded cliches. When using a cliche, your hyperbole is dead on arrival, and hinders rather than helps your writing.

Avoid the following over-used examples:
•I am so hungry I could eat a horse.
•I have a million things to do.
•I had a ton of homework.
•He is as skinny as a toothpick.
•We are so poor; we don’t have two cents to rub together.
•You could have knocked me over with a feather.
•Her brain is the size of a pea.
•He is older than the hills.

Do you employ an occasional hyperbole in your writing? Do you have a favorite?

NoNaNo

2011-11-03T02:00:00.000-07:00

Right.

I know I said I was going to switch this blog to a MWF posting schedule ... but now that I'm getting back into the whole "posting & hopping" blog thing ... well ... I realize I have a lot of words to get out of my system. So, count on a MWF schedule, but there may be TTS posts when I feel so motivated.

With that said, let's talk about NaNoWriMo, or NaNo for short.

Or ... NoNaNo for me.

Frankly, NaNo feels like something all the cool kids are doing. And it's spreading like wildfire. Even my daughter's high school formed a group to do it last year, and she's doing it again this year.

What am I missing? Do I need to have NaNo on my resume to be considered a dedicated writer? Am I going to be shunned by all the cool kids for not giving into the peer pressure and joining them? Can I be an independent and still be accepted by the writing community as a whole?

Well, regardless of your answers, I'm still a NoNaNo.

I hope we can still be friends.

Make Me Laugh ... or Cringe!

2011-11-02T02:00:00.000-07:00

Similes.

Why do they make us think, laugh, or cringe?

First, the definition from Brooklyn College: "Literal language means exactly what it says; a rose is the physical flower. Figurative language changes the literal meaning, to make a meaning fresh or clearer, to express complexity, to capture a physical or sensory effect, or to extend meaning. ... A simile: a comparison of two dissimilar things using "like" or "as", e.g., "my love is like a red, red rose" (Robert Burns). ..."

Second, here's a simile I heard this summer that keeps replaying in my mind:

"She threw that ball like a prayer straight to heaven," C. Ryan Dunn said while describing how his wife launched a basketball granny-style from a great distance to win a bet ... and win she did, when the ball swished through the net.

I love the sensory effect of that simile. It captures the desire behind the effort.

source: http://mattersofopinion.net/2011/06/stephen-king-mixed-with-politics-could-be-fresh-horror/

Stephen King writes, "... I like the figurative stuff. The use of simile and other figurative language is one of the chief delights of fiction—reading it and writing it, as well. When it’s on target, a simile delights us in much the same way meeting an old friend in a crowd of strangers does. By comparing two seemingly unrelated objects—a restaurant bar and a cave, a mirror and a mirage—we are sometimes able to see an old thing in a new and vivid way. Even if the result is mere clarity instead of beauty, I think writer and reader are participating together in a kind of miracle. ... My all-time favorite similes, by the way, come from the hardboiled-detective fiction of the forties and fifties, and the literary descendants of the dime-dreadful writers. ... “I lit a cigarette [that] tasted like a plumber’s handkerchief ” (Raymond Chandler). The key to good description begins with clear seeing and ends with clear writing, the kind of writing that employs fresh images and simple vocabulary" (ON WRITING, pages 176-177).

Do you think a great simile adds to a story? Or do you prefer literal language?

Book Review: WANNA GET LUCKY?

2011-11-01T02:00:00.000-07:00

Wanna Get Lucky? by Deborah Coonts

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Bottom line: loved it.

Lucky O'Toole is in charge of customer relations at an opulent casino in Las Vegas, and she needs to figure out whether or not Lyda Sue committed suicide or was murdered.

The opening line of the books reads: "As her final act on this earth, Lyda Sue Stalnaker plummeted out of a Las Vegas helicopter and landed smack in the middle of the pirates' lagoon in the front of the Treasure Island Hotel, disrupting the 8:30 p.m. pirate show."

Ha. That's a great start.

What I did not like: Some of the character development seemed forced. Several times I was taken out of the moment, out of the story, because an action or description of a character made me scrunch my eyebrows. Also, I'm not a fan of promiscuity. So, the storylines involving partner swapping and the porn star convention made me grimace ... and almost lower the rating to three stars. I kept reading, regardless of this issue, because the author mostly skimmed along the edges of these topics. Only later in the book did she actually devote any real paragraphs to the topics. So, if you're skeemish, you can simply skim or skip those few pages. There's plenty of warning that the topic is coming up - so you won't be caught by surprise.

What I loved: I used to work in the hotel industry; so, I really enjoyed reading about a main character who was in charge of solving customer problems. It was a hoot! Skill is required to hold a customer responsible for their own actions, and yet make them think you are doing them a favor. Coonts did a great job of describing these scenes. I also really enjoyed the unpredictability of the book. Normally, I'm quick to figure out the plotline and forsee the ending. Not this time. Coonts had me guessing throughout the book.

I also appreciated the fact that the "high fashion" was NOT overdone in this book. I've read other books where every detail of a high fashion shoe was described (and I think I threw up a little in my mouth). Lucky O'Toole wears high fashion, but it's described lightly and almost in passing. So, while I don't know one brand name from another, and couldn't care less, I wasn't tortured or made to hate Lucky O'Toole because of her wardrobe.

If you enjoy the likes of Stephanie Plum, you'll enjoy reading about the adventures of Lucky O'Toole.

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Provoke & Mesmerize Me!

2011-10-31T02:00:00.000-07:00

Quotes.

There are books, websites, posters, note cards, and bookmarks dedicated to them.

Why are they so important? Why do we care who said what and why?

Well, first, quotes are important because they provoke us and mesmerize us. They make us consider the words uttered.

PROVOKE: "If you stay here much longer, you'll all be slitty-eyed," Prince Philip said to a group of British exchange students in China during 1986.

Why does this quote matter? It was said twenty-five years ago. Should we just forget about it? Does it matter MORE that a "prince" said these words than if a middle class man in the U.S. said them? Does it matter that in 2011 Prince Philip went on to say (regarding this quote), “I'd forgotten about it. But for one particular reporter who overheard it, it wouldn’t have come out. What’s more, the Chinese weren’t worried about it, so why should anyone else?” (source: www.telegraph.co.uk)

Yes. It matters.

And, it's a relevant quote, because it provokes discussion.

MESMERIZE: "Just think of it! You are known and remembered by the most majestic, powerful, and glorious being in the universe. You are loved by the king of infinite space and everlasting time. He who created and knows the stars, knows you and your name. You are the daughters of his kingdom," Dieter F. Uchtdorf said to the women of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints in 2011. (source: www.lds.org)

Why does this quote matter? Does it matter that it was said to a group of Mormon women? Would it matter more if it were said by member of NASA? Or your mother?

Yes. It matters.

The source of the words, the intention of the words, and the selection of the words matters.

And that is why writing and speaking are so important. Words carefully chosen for clarity, tone, meter, and audience result in a thought provoking and/or mesmerizing quotable phrase.

Do you have a favorite quote? Is it provoking or mesmerizing?

5 Great Words for Inspiration

2011-10-28T02:00:00.000-07:00

1. Quotes - why do they provoke us and mesmerize us?

2. Similes - why do they make us think, laugh, or cringe?

3. Hyperboles - why do they make us scrunch our eyebrows?

4. Metaphors - why do they make us stop and reconsider an idea?

5. Seasons - why do they represent all that we are?

Over the next five posts (Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays), we will explore the five words above. Each are a great source for inspiration, whether for your writing or for your living or both. So, consider the idea and come back and contribute.

Bring your favorite quote with you on Monday. :-)

Like Regina commented on a previous post:

"If you lack the courage to start, then you have already finished."

Book Review: NATIVE TONGUE

2011-10-26T02:00:00.000-07:00

Native Tongue by Carl Hiaasen

My rating: 1 of 5 stars

At first, I was very excited to read this book. I'd heard great things about the author, and the description on the back of the book made it sound like a kick-in-the-pants.

I needed a funny kick-in-the-pants kind of book to distract me and make me laugh.

Well, it worked ... for about the first fifteen pages. Halarious.

But, then it simply became ridiculous. Too ridiculous. The kind of ridiculous where I want to shake the author and ask, "Do you think I'm that stupid? Come on!"

So, I decided to stop wasting my precious time around page 300 (seriously, I gave it a good effort ... but reading should not require effort), and I set the book down. Or more specifically, I set it in the "get-rid-of-this-stuff" box.

I doubt I will read this author again. Big disappointment.

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No More Doctors ... at least for awhile.

2011-10-25T09:04:00.000-07:00

Brain tumor? Pineal cyst? Pineocytoma? Pineal lesion?

Whatever this 12mm object is in my head ... the doctors have all decided that the risk of taking it out is greater than leaving it in. I feel like I have wasted the last two months of my life pursuing this ... and wasted a ton of money. Furthermore, while I pursued this medical concern in my head, we also pursued a medical situation with my seventeen-year-old son. Long story short, after a lot of doctors and tests and money, the specialist is 95% sure he has Ulcerative Colitis. Which has very similar symptoms as Crohn's disease. There is a small (5%) chance it could still be Crohn's. This is a lifetime conidition that will need to be managed.

So, needless to say, I'm tired of doctor's visits.

However, I found several things very interesting:
1. The "bedside" manner of the pediatric doctors was much more calming than the neuro-doctors.
2. The pediatric medical staff all encouraged me to go home and Google my son's condition while the neuro-people all DIS-couraged me from researching brain issues on the internet.
3. The pediatric specialist was the first to admit he doesn't know everything, but the neuro-doctors all wanted me to take their words as divine revelation.

*sigh*

Enough complaining.

I've decided to move forward. So, starting tomorrow, I will be back to regular blog posts ABOUT WRITING, READING, AND EATING (just as the blog title says). I will probably start posting on a MWF schedule ... we'll see how it goes.

So, check back tomorrow for a new book review. And, thanks for your patience.

Pineal Gland Cyst

2011-09-26T21:28:00.000-07:00

Well. So, I've neglected my blog posts and blog hopping, because I've been distracted by my MRI results.

I have a 12mm Pineal Gland Cyst in the middle of my brain (top red arrow). It has calcification on one side which could be a tumorous nodule. There's also a black spot (second red arrow) that could be something (tumor), but they need to recheck it. And, then there's the cavum septum pellucidum at vergae (thought you'd appreciate the correct term) which is merely an "incidental" finding with no significance, according to everyone medical who's talked to me so far. But, it does make a pretty picture of a butterfly in my head (bottom red arrow). Supposedly, everyone has the "wings" of the butterfly in their head, but only a small percentage has the "body" of the butterfly. There are only guesses as to why. Personally, I think it's because I've always been an overachiever. There were some other findings as well ... but disagreement as to the meanings. So, far I've seen three doctors, and I have a phone consultation with a Los Angeles neurosurgeon next week.

So, I might not be around making blog posts for a few days ... as I pursue a medical solution. Today, it was suggested that maybe I have MS as well. Sheesh. Whatever. I can do hard things. ... well ... in between crying and sleeping ... I can do hard things.

Once I get my head screwed on straight (literally and metaphorically), I will be back to regular blog posts about writing, blackberry picking, reading, and other fun things. So, please do check back. I won't remain mired in confusion and frustration forever.

2 Quick & Easy Tips for Improving Romantic Scenes

2011-09-19T07:58:00.000-07:00

Do you write romance? Or even young adult?

Here are two tips for improving your writing:

Tip 1: Watch "Planet Earth" (especially clips like this) and imagine your male suitor behaving in a somewhat similar manner.

Tip 2: Watch it again, and then implement something you learned from it into your writing. (The dancing bird at the end is my all-time favorite!!)

Bwhahaha.

Seriously.

Unexpected Surprises!

2011-09-15T09:33:00.000-07:00

... Lessons in Picking Blackberries #3 ...

I went out to pick blackberries this morning,

but look at what I found in my berry patch:

What a delight that unexpected surprise brought to me!

It reminded me of an article I read in WRITER'S DIGEST titled "The Geyser Approach to Revision" by James Scott Bell. He suggested overwriting "... for a few minutes without stopping ..." because "Intentionally overwriting brings up all manner of surprises, most of which you'll not use. But in the pile you'll pull out a gem that you will want to keep" (page 23).

So, if you're stuck on a scene, description, voice, or whatever, try letting your imagination loose for a few minutes. Go crazy overwriting the problem section. Who knows, maybe you'll find some unexpected surprises!

:)
Happy Writing.
...

What is your favorite revision tip?

Use a FREAKING Comma!

2011-09-14T01:30:00.000-07:00

Here's my tiny pet peeve (when not used):

"Place a comma before a conjunction introducing an independent clause" (THE ELEMENTS OF STYLE, page 5).

For example: "The early records of the city have disappeared, and the story of its first years can no longer be reconstructed. The situation is perilous, but there is still one chance of escape" (THE ELEMENTS OF STYLE, page 5).

More explanation: "Two-part sentences of which the second member is introduced by as (in the sense of "because"), for, or, nor or while (in the sense of "and at the same time") likewise require a comma before the conjunction" (THE ELEMENTS OF STYLE, page 5).

Tell the truth. What's your grammar pet peave?

Or are you just an all around happy person, and nothing ever bothers you?

A GREAT New Resource for YA Writers!

2011-09-13T01:30:00.000-07:00

Do you write for the young adult market?

Well ... there's a great new blog to add to your favorites!

http://yaconfidential.blogspot.com/

Why is it great?

Because the writers behind it will be utilizing real-live young adults for feedback, critiques, features, book reviews, and more!

Check it out.

Do you utilize the feedback of teenagers on your writing projects? Or do you just ASSUME young adults will love what you have to say? Hmm?

Book Review: THE FOUR AGREEMENTS

2011-09-12T01:30:00.000-07:00

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, A Toltec Wisdom Book by Miguel Ruiz

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

I've read this book probably four times now. I think it is a great book with great philosophies; however, I will always remember that I had highly recommended this book to a group of people, and one of them called me and told me how offended she was by the book (she didn't read more than 15 pages). And, she couldn't believe I would recommend a book that went against her/my/our religious beliefs.

Well ... here's my opinion: Truth is truth, and it is found in many places. Sometimes truth is surrounded by un-truths. It is for us to decide whether it is worth the effort to sort through the information or not.

Whether you agree with everything in this book or not (which, I don't agree with it all) ... it is still a fantastic book. If you learn the basic agreements promoted in this book, you will only benefit:

1. Be Impeccable with Your Word

2. Don't Take Anything Personally

3. Don't Make Assumptions

4. Always do Your Best

I will continue to highly recommend this book. The world would be such a better place if we all did our best to follow these four agreements.

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What book are you reading right now? Do you like it?

Flash Fiction - First Campaigner Challenge

2011-09-09T10:10:00.000-07:00

So ... Rachael Harrie has issued the first challenge of the current campaign:

Write a story in 200 words or less. Begin the story with the words, “The door swung open.” If you want to give yourself an added challenge (optional), use the same beginning words and end with the words: "the door swung shut." For those who want an even greater challenge, make your story 200 words EXACTLY!

Now, even though I am sometimes a procrastinator (the deadline is today!) ... I am always up to a challenge! HA.

Here ya go - - - exactly 200 words and using the opening and closing words listed above:

Source: http://weheartit.com/

Shem and the Unicorns
by
Margo Kelly

The door swung open and clunked against the wall. Shem poked his head inside. Did the noise alert his father? Only two cows seemed to notice. They chewed their cud, keeping their eyes on Shem. He darted back out and ran to the tree where he’d tied the unicorns. Warm air puffed from the colt’s nostrils as he pulled against the reins, but the filly smiled, revealing her bulky teeth.

Shem tugged them toward the door, and their hooves clacked against the wooden ramp.

“What are you doing?”

Shem backed into the unicorns.

“Answer me, son.”

“Well … we should bring the unicorns. They’re rare. Beautiful.”

“No, son, they are filthy and deceptive.”

“But you were told to bring two of every kind.”

The colt neighed and stepped toward Shem’s father.

“Not those illusory creatures. They’ll devour the food and kill the other animals.”

Shem hung his head. His father took the reins and pulled the unicorns away from the ark. Shem followed as his father slipped the ropes from the animals and slapped them on the behinds. Shem walked back to the ark with his father; then hefted the door away from the wall, and the door swung shut.

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If you like the story, be sure to CLICK HERE AND VOTE by "liking" my link ... but you'll have to scroll down FAR to find mine (because I'm a procrastinator). My link should be around number 366 or so. (yikes!)

If I Only Had A Brain!

2011-09-08T05:50:00.000-07:00

Have you ever considered what's NORMAL and what's abnormal? As writers ... I'm sure you have! Because, that's character development! But sometimes in real life, I wonder ... are my ~~symptoms~~ traits normal for the average human being of my age and gender?

Who's to say really?

Well, I used the golf ball on my ankle (aka bug bite) as an excuse to visit my regular doctor. She said not to worry about it. It will go away.

Then, I took it upon myself to bring up the topic of my brain and the way it functions ... errr ... doesn't function. She took my concerns seriously. Now, this morning I "get" to go have a brain MRI.

What if they find no brain at all? That would ... explain everything.

If I only had a brain ...

Labor Day Weekend Activities

2011-09-06T07:58:00.000-07:00

(Crazy long post. If you don't have time to read it ... just look at the pretty pictures!)

We had a great event filled Labor Day weekend!

It started off with bugs (what else?).

I had been bitten several times on each ankle Wednesday night, and Friday night when I went to apply more anti-itch cream, my kids freaked out when they saw my ankle! YIKES. One of the bites had swollen to the size of a golf ball.

I clearly wasn't thinking straight, because I honestly hadn't even noticed. Sheesh. So, my kids insisted I go to "Quick Care" a.k.a. Doc in the Box. The doctor took a look at my ankle and said, "Hmm. That's unusual." Gee, thanks, Doc. He said I was having an allergic reaction and needed to take a double dose of Zyrtec every day until the lump was gone. (That was Friday night. It's now Tuesday morning, and lump is still there ... maybe a bit smaller.)

Saturday, I hit the ground running (even though Doc said I should rest all weekend). I had a Stampin' Up! workshop in the morning.

photo source: http://www.stampinup.net/esuite/home/margo

Then met some friends and used a long arm quilting machine to quilt an big queen sized log cabin quilt. YAY!

This isn't the exact machine I used, but silly me, I forgot to take my camera!

Here's the quilt (it still needs the binding finished):

Close up of the free motion quilting I did (this is the back side of the quilt).

After quilting for 4 1/2 hours, I raced home, grabbed the kids, and headed for Meridian. Because, we had free tickets for the Meridian Speedway! And, it was a crazy crashed filled night! What a blast!

picture source: http://www.asa-racing.com/news.aspx?Id=47835

By Saturday night, my swollen ankle was killing me. So, I took the doctor's advice on Sunday and rested. I finished the hand embroidery on one of my favorite quilts. Then Monday, I sewed the blocks together and "sandwiched" the quilt. While my family watched movies, I started the hand quilting. YAY. Great weekend.

What did you do over the holiday weekend?

Put Me in Coach!

2011-09-01T10:31:00.000-07:00

As a writer, have you gone through the query process? Have you successfully found an agent?

At any point in the process, have you ever felt like shouting from the roof tops, "I'm ready!"

But, the agents say:
"Work on your skills."
"No thank you."
"Keep trying."

*sigh*

Have you played sports?

I feel like my daughter and I are going through the same experiences right now. I have skills. She has skills. But, the agents and coaches are busy looking at other players. We need to do something to grab their attention and not let go.

...

"Put me in coach! I'm ready to play ... today! Look at me! I can be ..."

Maybe the coach or agent knows more than us, but maybe the coach or agent has personal preferences as well.

I told my daughter:
"Hustle your butt more."
"Improve your skills."
"Have the most positive attitude possible."
"And keep working at it."

That advice works just as well for those of us in the query trenches.

"Put me in coach! I'm ready to play ... today! Look at me! I can be ..."

Flat Belly Diet: Continue to Post?

2011-08-31T11:59:00.000-07:00

Several people have emailed and asked if my family is still doing the Flat Belly Diet.

Short answer: Yes!

I had stopped with the posts about it, because I was concerned they seemed redundant. Would you like more posts on this topic? Let me know!!

Here's what's been happening with the FBD:

We've fallen a bit into the "I'm too busy to buy all this stuff and prep and measure all this food right now!" TRAP. So, we've been running to the store and quickly grabbing the easy ingredients that we know we like and need to make some of our favorite meals, but we've also been running to Papa Murphy's and buying the easy pizza or two ... or three.

So, while we've not dropped a bunch of additional weight, we have maintained. That's great considering some of the junk we've eaten.

BUT, we continue to eat the healthy meals when we are at home, AND, we continue to have the MUFAs at each meal, AND we still like the program, AND we no longer like milk chocolate. Our tastes buds have definitely changed. My two (out of three) kids like the food so much, they will even take the time to pack their own lunches so they can eat the better food at school instead of the greasy pepperoni pizzas and burritos offered in the lunch line.

Now that the kids are back in school, we are going to try harder to get back on the program. We want to achieve our weight loss goals, and we actually like the majority of the foods offered in the Flat Belly Diet program.

And, interestingly enough, NBC had a report yesterday morning talking about how dark chocolate, green olives, and black olives help reduce the risks of certain diseases. So ... that's right in line with what we're doing.

Let me know if you'd like regular posts on this topic, and I will continue based off your responses.

If you'd like to see the previous posts, just click on the Flat Belly Diet label below or in the side bar.

Are YOU Laconic?!

2011-08-29T22:11:00.000-07:00

From: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/laconic :

la·con·ic (l-knk)

adj.

Using or marked by the use of few words; terse or concise.

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[Latin Lacnicus, Spartan, from Greek Laknikos, from Lakn, a Spartan (from the reputation of the Spartans for brevity of speech).]

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la·coni·cal·ly adv.

Word History: The study of the classics allows one to understand the history of the term laconic, which comes to us via Latin from Greek Laknikos. The English word is first recorded in 1583 with the sense "of or relating to Laconia or its inhabitants." Laknikos is derived from Lakn, "a Laconian, a person from Lacedaemon," the name for the region of Greece of which Sparta was the capital. The Spartans, noted for being warlike and disciplined, were also known for the brevity of their speech, and it is this quality that English writers still denote by the use of the adjective laconic, which is first found in this sense in 1589.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

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Why did I post this? Again, my son's AP English class has me thinking ... who knows ... maybe I'll learn something from his homework this year. Tonight, he asked me to help him think of characters from literature that speak laconically.

I googled it.

Huckleberry Finn? I don't think I agree with Google.

What laconic characters can you come up with?

Prune Your Bush

2011-08-27T02:00:00.000-07:00

No ... the title of this post is NOT a beloved euphemism. :-) It is an analogy.

... Lessons in Blackberry Picking #2 ...

You must take time to prune the unnecessary vines in the blackberry bush.

Yes, it can be very frustrating to spend more time pruning than picking ... especially when you can see all of those huge ripe berries just waiting to be picked (and popped into your mouth). However, it will be much easier to get to those berries if you trim the unnecessary leaders that are blocking your path first. Plus, by cutting out those thorny vines that are not producing berries themselves, you give the bush more energy to put toward the fruit.

How does this relate to writing?

Revising and editing are crucial to the writing process. Yes, as writers, we have a ton of great ideas bouncing around in our heads just waiting to be plucked out and plopped down onto paper ... but we just can't let them grow wild. We must cut out the unnecessary words, paragraphs, and scenes, in order to make it easier for the reader to enjoy the ripe parts of the story.

YUM!

Are you currently pruning a Work-in-Progress?

A Plethora of Esoteric Words

2011-08-26T02:01:00.000-07:00

Really?

Yes.

My sixteen-year-old son came up to me the other night and asked, "Mom, would you help me find a plethora of esoteric words?"

Really?

Yes.

He wanted to impress his AP English class. Okay. So then he looked at me doubtfully and asked, "Do you even know what esoteric words are?"

Really?

Yes.

Where's the faith? Sheesh. But then, I was on the spot, and had to produce a definition from the depths of my own brain. That instant. My answer? "Uh ... pretty sure esoteric words are big fancy words that people use to appear smarter than everyone else."

My son smiled. "Close enough," he said.

So ... we googled esoteric words, and found a great list at:
http://www.babylon.com/

I was thrilled to see EUPHEMISM on the list! Because, "euphemism" just happens to be one of my ALL-TIME favorite words!! (for reals!!) So ... boy did I feel smart. I already knew an esoteric word in front of my son! YAY me!

But then he asked me to explain what a euphemism was ... and that was harder. Because I could suddenly only think of sexual euphemisms ... like:

1. Monkey Dance
2. Pole Vaulting
3. Sit and Spin
4. Wanna Get Busy
5. Oh ... oops ... I forgot that my mom-in-law sometimes reads my blog. Sorry to the mom of my monkey dancing partner! :-) bwhahahahaha.

Anyway ...

Here's the simple definition:
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Noun
1. an inoffensive expression that is substituted for one that is considered offensive
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So, my son asked, "You mean instead of telling someone they are a terrible singer, I could use a euphemism and tell them they are not a very good singer?"

Uh.

No.

I said, "No. But, you could say, 'WOW! You hit notes I didn't even know existed!!" and smile.

ha.

Anyhow ... this posted has gone on too long. If I was smarter, I could have used esoteric words to end this post with ...

*sigh*

Do you have a favorite esoteric word or a favorite euphemism? Share!

Talent is NOTHING!

2011-08-25T02:00:00.000-07:00

Well, okay, maybe NOT nothing ... but below is a link to a GREAT article about the fact ...

"Talent is nothing without focus and endurance," Haruki Murakami.

A perfect quote to kick me in the behind and get to the writing!

Check it out: Murakami Talent-Is-Nothing-Without-Focus-and-Endurance

Book Review: THE BOURNE LEGACY

2011-08-24T02:00:00.000-07:00

The Bourne Legacy by Robert Ludlum

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

I enjoyed it! It was not my favorite Bourne book, but it was a good read while out camping. The only reason I gave it four stars instead of five is because the plot dragged in the middle and one of the main characters rambled on too much. But ... that was part of his egotistical character. None-the-less, I found myself skimming his inner monologues.

I really enjoyed getting back to the Bourne series. I look forward to reading the next one, but I fear I must only read it when I have time to go from cover to cover. Otherwise, my brain has trouble remembering all the foreign names and locations to keep them all straight.

But, maybe I could count reading a Bourne book as brain exercise.

haha.

View all my reviews

What book are you reading right now? Do you love it?

THIRD WRITERS' PLATFORM BUILDING CAMPAIGN

2011-08-23T02:00:00.000-07:00

YAY! It's that time again!

Rachael Harrie has put in a ton of time and effort to help connect writers. If you are interested in joining together, building your own platform, and helping others build theirs ... check out the details at:

http://rachaelharrie.blogspot.com/p/writers-platform-building-crusade.html

BUT HURRY, because the lists close August 31st.

Need a LAUGH?

2011-08-22T08:49:00.000-07:00

We interrupt the regularly scheduled blog post, to bring you simple halarity (is that a word? ... it is now!).

Oh. Oops. I guess this was me being DISTRACTED again ... now, back to writing!!

TODAY is the BIG day!

2011-08-22T07:02:00.000-07:00

Well, my husband and I arrived home late last night from one last summer trip.

We (just he and I) went camping for four days to celebrate our 23rd wedding anniversary. Last year was the first time we took a camping trip by ourselves ... and we LOVED it! And ... the kids didn't die while we were gone, so we thought we'd try it again this year. We were thrilled to arrive home and see that the house was still intact and the kids survived without our parental nagging.

Now, this morning the kids are all off to their first day of school, my husband is at work, the dogs are playing ... and ... I am supposed to find my mojo and get back to my manuscript.

Except things keep distracting me ... like:
1. the laundry
2. the dirty dishes
3. the bills
4. the weather forecast (seriously, supposed to be 98 degrees today ... YIKES!)
5. the unanswered emails
6. the blackberries that need to be picked AND eaten
7. and on and on and on

I need to focus, focus, focus.

What helps you get into the zone and focus on your writing?

Lessons in Picking Blackberries

2011-08-18T08:21:00.000-07:00

YAY! Today was the first official day of picking blackberries. I love them. We have a HUGE bush in our backyard, but the crop is really late this year.

Here's the first lesson of the season:

Just because the berry is black, doesn't mean it's ready to be picked.

Why?

Because, if you want sweet juicy berries, you need to wait until a gentle touch causes them to fall from the vine into your hand. If you have to pull or tug the berry AT ALL to get it to release from the vine, it's not ready, and it will taste sour.

How does this relate to writing?

Simple.

Just because your manuscript is FINISHED, doesn't mean it's ready for publication!! It may not be perfectly ripe yet. Give it some more time to ripen and then work through the bush again. :)

What's your favorite fruit of the summer?

Character Development: EVIL vs. GOOD

2011-08-17T10:21:00.000-07:00

So ... I had a great conversation last night after a business meeting, discussing the bare bones of leadership.

I've continued to think about the conversation throughout the night ... do you ever do that? Ponder things WHILE you sleep? Anyway, I digress.

Leadership ... you can go about it many different ways ... including the nice way and the mean way.

A book I've previously read on the topic:

This was an excellent book, based on excellent principles. A great way to be a positive leader.

But, last night, the book that was recommended to me was:

Here's what one reviewer on goodreads.com wrote:

"i learned to be eviiiilll with this book....haha actually this book made me realize how shady people can be. Plus how smart you and ambitious you should be about succeeding in life. You got to stand out in this world. If you roll with the bunches you'll become lost. You always have to have a good reputation or if you have a certain reputation you better use it to your advantage (damn im evil hahaha). This book will expose and teach you alot about the real world. One of my first books i really read and enjoyed. it motivated me to keeping learning about myself and people. i highly recommend it."

... okay ...

Which made me think: what a great basis for character development in your writing. There's a big difference between authentic leadership and pursuit of power.

Furthermore, what a great research tool for your writing! Read these books on leadership and power, and decide which book your character would prefer.

What do you think?

Do you think there's a difference between leadership and power? Have you read either book?

GREAT Resources for Writers!

2011-08-16T06:11:00.000-07:00

Need some inspiration, motivation, and/or collaboration? Check out the online writers' conference at WriteOnCon!

Here's the schedule of events for today (EDT):

Tuesday, August 16, 2011:

6:00 AM: Welcome Keynote by author Josh Berk – in a BATHROBE!

7:00 AM: Pacing in Contemporary YA by author Sara Zarr

7:30 AM: Call for questions for literary agent Steven Malk

8:00 AM: How to Write A Killer First Sentence by author Jodi Meadows

8:30 AM: Picture Book Queries by author Emma Walton Hamilton

9:00 AM: Myths and Misconceptions by literary agent Holly Root, and editors Molly O’Neill and Martha Mihalick

10:00 AM: Drawing From Memory by author Alan Silberberg

10:30 AM: Writing For Multiple Ages by author Shelley Moore Thomas

11:00 AM: Literary agents Carlie Webber and Christina Hogrebe’s thread opens in the forum. Participants can post their “Twitter pitch” (pitch in 140 characters or less) and first 100 words for critique/comment. Entries capped at 75.

11:00 AM: Live Forum Q&A and PB query critiques with author Emma Walton Hamilton

12:00 PM: On Platform, a live chat with literary agent Sara Megibow

1:00 PM: Creating Compelling Settings by author Jessi Kirby

1:30 PM: Puzzled By Picture Books by author/illustrator Sarah Frances Hardy

2:00 PM: Is your MS ready for submission? by author Tom Leveen

2:30 PM: LGBT Lit by author Scott Tracey

3:00 PM: Live Q&A chat with literary agent Suzie Townsend

4:00 PM: Don’t Give Up! by author Beth Revis

4:30 PM: Writing Magical Realism by author Nova Ren Suma

5:00 PM: COLLECTIVE BLOGGING & BOOK PROMOTION — Ten ways to collaborate with fellow bloggers and writers on-line and in-person (For published and not-yet-published writers!)—Stages on Pages

6:00 PM: Author Collaboration with author Jay Asher

8:00 PM: Live Q&A Forum Event with literary agent Jessica Sinsheimer

9:00 PM: Panel of Professionals (Michelle Andelman, Emily Meehan, Annette Pollert, Jim McCarthy)

A Good Day!

2011-08-13T20:17:00.000-07:00

Oh ... it has been a good ... good day!

This morning, I woke to the smell of a turkey cooking in the oven. Seriously. My husband came home from work last night at 11:30pm and put a turkey in the oven. He seared (is that a cooking word?) it for 30 minutes at 450 degrees and then turned the oven down to 200 degrees and went to bed. (He did this because our air conditioner still does not work, and he didn't want to heat up the house during the day!)Now ... I've heard stories about people getting sick and dying from eating a bird cooked that way ... but good news! We're not dead.

But, I'm getting ahead of myself.

After getting up, I let the dogs out to relieve themselves, and I checked my blackberry bush. FINALLY. One berry (that I've been checking daily all week) was perfectly ripe and ready to pick. YUM! I ate it and enjoyed it thoroughly. It was PERFECT and sweet and firm and juicy. YAY! Maybe tomorrow there will be enough to top my cereal. And, we have a HUGE crop this year.

Then, I took my daughter to the second day of volleyball team tryouts. STRESS. She was supposed to find out the coaches decision at 2:15, but the coaches decided to announce their decisions at Noon, and not only did she make the Junior Varsity team (YAY!!!) apparently the coach made a big deal about her efforts as well. What a rewarding experience for her!! You see, instead of playing volleyball in middle school, she chose to play two years of boys' football (seriously). And, she did quite well, even played a starting position for awhile. But, this put her at a disadvantage for entering girls' volleyball at the high school level with no experience. So, last year, we put her in a couple of volleyball camps and worked with her throughout the summer. But, sadly, last year she didn't make the final cut for the team. I was impressed with her positive attitude toward the experience. She took it as motivation and continued to work on her skills all throughout the year. We saw this as parents, and decided to invest heavily in her volleyball camps this summer to do everything in our power to help her make the team. She continued to work super hard all summer, and it really paid off today. The coach even told the freshman today who were cut that they shouldn't just quit. They should work on their skills and come back and try again next year, because that's what a sophomore did (he was talking about Katie!) and she made the JV team today.

YAY!! I couldn't be more thrilled. Her joy is my joy.

So, my mom, my daughter, and I went and got pedicures and manicures to celebrate Katie's volleyball success. But, between you and me, I planned to take her for this special treat today regardless of the coaches' decision!! :) My 69 year old mother had never had a pedicure before, and she nearly fell asleep in the chair she was so relaxed and pampered. That was awesome.

It's been a great day.

We had Thanksgiving dinner around 2pm ... the turkey cooked over 12 hours at 200 degrees (ha ... turkey in August) with homemade gravy (made from only Rice Milk, Flour, Pepper, and Turkey Juices) and red potatos. We added no salt, no butter, and it was so delicious. YUM!! We've since packaged up all of the turkey meat into 3 ounce portions for our Flat Belly Diet menus, and now I'm boiling the carcass to make delicious soups. Double Yum.

It was such a great day, that not even a woman threatening to take me to court over a mishap with a cell phone can ruin my day!!

*sigh*

I hope your day was great, too!

Dumpster Diving

2011-08-11T07:49:00.000-07:00

I love teenagers. Seriously.

An awesome young woman that I admire said to me, "Hey, did your son tell you we were thinking about going out later tonight?"

"Uh, no. Where--" but then I stopped myself, realizing I was prying, and instead said, "I'm sure you guys would have a blast."

Her eyebrows popped up. "Really? You don't mind if a bunch of us go out later?"

I denied my inner control freak and mounting curiosity. "No. I don't mind. He's old enough to make his own decisions."

"Oh. Cool!!"

So, I arrived home and said to my seventeen-year-old son, "So, I talked to Bertha (name changed to protect the ~~innocent~~ instigator), and she said you guys are going out tonight."

His eyebrows popped up. "Really? You don't mind?"

My curiosity became harder to control. "No. As long as you walk in the door before midnight. I don't care if you go have fun with your friends." I'm such a great mom.

"Well, I don't know if we can be home before midnight, because Krispy Kreme doesn't close until 11pm, and it takes half an hour just to drive back home after that, and we'll need time to go through the dumpster."

"WHAT?!" I very calmly asked.

"Dumpster diving," he very calmly replied. "You said you didn't mind."

"WHAT?!" I heard myself repeat.

"Dumpster diving. Krispy Kreme closes at 11pm. They throw out their unsold donuts. We grab them from the dumpster and run."

Clearly my son is too young to make his own decisions.

"I'm sure that can't be legal," I said.

"The girls have done it before." He smiled and waggled his big bushy eyebrows.

"That doesn't make it legal. And, I'm not getting you out of jail. You will have to sit there and rot."

"Okay! Thanks, Mom!" And he dialed his friends to make plans.

...
p.s. If dumpster diving is illegal, please consider this a completely fictional story. I am, after all, a writer.

Write on the Sound

2011-08-10T02:00:00.000-07:00

Well, I've done it! I've signed up for another writers' conference. This one looks very different from the one I attended last year. So, it will be interesting to compare the two.

So, if you're in the neighborhood - - come and join me for some classes! :-) The conference is September 30 through October 2, 2011. $190 for 2 1/2 days, or $120 for just Saturday and Sunday.

Here's the link for more information: http://www.ci.edmonds.wa.us/ArtsCommission/wots.stm

Have you been to any worthwhile conferences lately? What do you recommend?

FBD: Week Four Details

2011-08-09T03:00:00.000-07:00

Should we call it "Week Four" if we didn't actually follow the eating plan? Hmm.

During week four, we traveled out of town (to Rexburg). We didn't want to go off the plan completely (we'd worked too hard to simply quit!!), but the logistics were too crazy to follow the plan completely.

Here's what we decided to do:

1. We took LUNA bars, oranges, and MUFAs with us. One bar, a serving of nuts, and a fruit is approximately 400 calories. So, we had this healthy choice available throughout the week.
2. We usually made healthier choices at restaurants, but sometimes we didn't. I had a DELICIOUS bacon cheeseburger with french fries. YUM. I also enjoyed pizza, not once, but twice. But the rest of the time, I chose healthy sandwiches or salads ... mostly. :) haha. And, we did indulge with some chocolate chip cookies ... heaven!!
3. We also took Rice Milk, Kashi Cereal, and Craisins with us; because for the second half of the week, we stayed in the dorms at BYU-Idaho. One cup of cereal, one cup of Rice Milk, 2 tbsp of craisins, and 2 tbsp of nuts equals about 400 calories.

We walked and hiked a LOT. We did Yellowstone on Tuesday, and then Thursday, Friday, and Saturday, we walked a ton between classes. I think the exercise helped balance out the pizza. :)

While I and my sixteen-year-old son maintained our weight (thrilled), my husband gained 4.5 pounds. But, he did indulge a bit more than I did during the week.

It was really nice to have a break from the regime of the program, but I still want to achieve my goal, and it was a bit of a challenge to commit to the program once we were back home. But, we're back on it now, and determined once again. So, this current week, we are following the week four eating plan. This will be confusing for my blog updates, but I'll let you know next week how the food was for the "real" week four of the program!

Thanks for checking in ... and ...

What food would you choose if you could indulge guilt free and calorie free? hmm?

FBD: Week Three Details

2011-08-08T06:00:00.000-07:00

My apologies for the delay in posting week three's details ... but we went out of town, and then ... you know ... I got side tracked. :) But, none-the-less ...

I will answer several questions.

1. How much did it actually cost?
2. How hard was it?
3. Was the food delicious or choke-worthy?
4. Was it worth the effort?
5. Problems and/or successes ...

How Much Did it Cost?

Our GROCERY BILL for the third week, for four people = $122.81

I know ... last week I figured it for five people. But, my oldest doesn't always eat the food. He works full time; so, he's not always here. Sometimes, he eats me out of house and home, other times, his boss treats him to a late lunch. Plus, there were leftover items from the previous week that we had bought for him. So, I think the math this time is more accurate with four people.

For one person, that would be closer to = $30.70

How Hard Was it?

Really, our only struggle this week was the temperature in our house. Still without an air conditioner, we just dreaded the "cooked" meals because they would heat up the house. We still struggled with pizza cravings, but we told ourselves, we would treat ourselves to pizza once we got to Rexburg (which we did! YUM!)

Was the food delicious or choke-worthy?

There were some REALLY interesting food choices this week. We really enjoyed the adventure!

Our favorite meal was the WHITE BEAN PASTA:
For one serving, mix 3/4 cup cooked whole wheat pasta, 1 tablespoon pesto sauce, 2 teaspoons olive oil, 1/4 cup cannellini beans rinsed and drained, and 2 tablespoons roasted red peppers. Heat thoroughly. Total calories: 377 ... YUM!!

Another interesting meal was the BASIL BEAN SALAD:
For one serving, mix 3/4 cup rinsed and drained cannellini beans, 1 small tomato chopped, 1 tablespoon olive oil, 2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar, and 1/4 teaspoon dried basil. Total calories: 366.

Was it worth the effort?

This week was totally worth the effort. I felt like I broke through a barrier. My total weight loss at the end of week three was 19 pounds. YAY! Oh ... but keep in mind, this total weight loss includes the the week prior to the FLAT BELLY DIET when I was starting to make better food choices and exercise. So, the 19 pounds is for closer to a five week period (when you include the four day jump start for the FBD, also).

My husband and children all thought it was worth the effort. The food choices were really fun during week three.

Problems and/or successes

The only issue this week was the fact that we procrastinated getting to the grocery store for the shopping. So, the first couple of days, we actually finished up left overs from the previous week. So, our week three didn't really start until a couple days later. But, it worked out fine, because we finished up food from the fridge.

Tomorrow, I will post week four's details. :) Check back!

Book Review: HARRY POTTER & THE SORCERER'S STONE

2011-08-06T09:00:00.000-07:00

Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone by J.K. Rowling

My rating: 3 of 5 stars

Are you going to shoot me if I say, "Uh, I didn't love it?"

YIKES!

I only gave it three stars because I didn't want to be hunted down by all of the Harry Potter fans. *insert nervous grin here*

It was OKAY ... we listened to the audio version while driving to Rexburg, Idaho. Granted ... I slept through part of it ... but doesn't that indicate BOREDOM?

Why, yes. Yes, it does.

View all my reviews

Work Expands to fill Time Available

2011-08-05T11:00:00.000-07:00

According to the always insightful Wikipedia:

Parkinson's Law is the adage first articulated by Cyril Northcote Parkinson as the first sentence of a humorous essay published in The Economist in 1955:

“ Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion. ”

It was later reprinted together with other essays in the book Parkinson's Law: The Pursuit of Progress (London, John Murray, 1958). He derived the dictum from his extensive experience in the British Civil Service.

from: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parkinson's_Law

.........

So, think about it. Have you ever had a task or a chore and you knew you had four hours to accomplish it, and so, it took the entire four hours (or more)? And, on the opposite side, have you ever had a task and you knew you only had 30 minutes to accomplish it; so, you hustled your bum and barely got it done it time?

I believe it is true!!

Often times when I feel overwhelmed by my to-do list, I will set the timer on the stove for 30 minutes, and I will attack the first item on my list. Then, when the timer goes off - - whether I've accomplished the current item or not - - I will move on to the next time on my list and reset the timer. And so on. When I do this, I accomplish so MUCH more in my day than when I casually move from one item to the next on my list. And, even if I don't finish each item on the list, I know that I made a huge dent in it during those thirty minutes.

What time management tricks help you during a busy day or week?

Weekly Writing Motivation

2011-08-04T14:00:00.000-07:00

It's not that I'm lacking motivation ... My problem this summer is I'm lacking available hours in the day.

So, if any of you know a great website that teaches how to find more hours in the day - - - let me know.

Until then, here's what I'm doing:

1. Reading TIME MANAGEMENT FROM THE INSIDE OUT by Morgenstern (but, I've had trouble finding time to read it, bwhahahaha).

2. Reorganizing my priorities. This summer I've given the majority of every waking minute to my children and their activities. I love them, and I love spending time with them, but this summer it has been to the detriment of all my other obligations, goals, and priorities. Therefore, I am reconsidering my list (which is easier knowing school is just around the corner).

3. Participating in my gal-pal's Weekly Writing Motivation. :)

Melissa Dean has come up with a great idea. Check out the details here:
http://community.writersdigest.com/group/weekly-writing-motivation

When and how do you find time to write?

What's COOL about Rexburg, Idaho?

2011-07-26T19:43:00.000-07:00

Seriously ...

We had a blast exploring Rexburg on Monday. And here's a couple of things we thought were super COOL ...

Our Hotel:

Springhill Suites by Marriott

The lobby is crazy:

The rooms are crazy COOL:

We also found an AWESOME pizza place (yeah, yeah, I know ... Flat Belly Diet ... well, we ate pizza).

They had a great salad bar, pasta bar, and pizza buffet. The pizzas were fresh and delicious, and they had a huge variety to choose from. My husband's favorite was the Alfredo pizza; mine was the Ranch pizza; my son loved the pasta bar. Uh. Yum.

Oh sure ... there are other cool things about Rexburg, like BYU-Idaho campus, the LDS Temple, and the three (seriously - - only three) Redbox locations.

But, what's NOT COOL about Rexburg? The Rexburg Walmart. YIKES!! Just. Don't. Go. There.

Tuesday, we decided (spur of the moment thing) to go to Yellowstone. Unprepared. No camera. No suncreen. Hmm. But we had a GREAT time. Saw tons of wildlife. Saw tons of crazy people jumping out of their cars in the middle of the road so they could get a closer picture of the noisy bear. Great idea. For so many reasons. Also saw people dipping their fingers into the hot water, right next to the sign that said, "Do not touch water. Dangerous. Boiling."

People.

On Vacation

2011-07-24T21:51:00.000-07:00

Dropping a quick note to let you know we are heading out (again) for a week's vacation. Where? you ask?

Rexburg, Idaho.

I know. I know.

HUGE getaway destination.

:)

My oldest son will be attending EFY (Especially for Youth) ... a fun, social, and spiritually uplifting week long event for teenagers.

My husband, my other son, and I will be attedning Education Week ... classes on religious topics.

So ... we are supposed to have WiFi. If so, I will post our week three results for the Flat Belly Diet.

Oh, and in case you're wondering my wonderful daughter is staying behind so she can attend ANOTHER volleyball camp. YAY her!

Thanks for checking in. Have you gone on any great vacations lately?

FBD: Week Two Details

2011-07-22T02:00:00.000-07:00

I'd really like a Chicken Garlic Pizza from Papa Murphy's right now.

Picture source: http://www.tammysrecipes.com/gourmet_chicken_garlic_pizza_copycat_papa_murphys

While looking for that picture, I stumbled upon a website that has a homemade version ... I wonder if it's healthier? Link is under picture if you want to try the recipe. :)

I have not eaten a pizza in a LONG time. And, second only to chocolate, pizza is my favorite food.

Anyhow, you may not want to read me rant about pizza cravings, so I'll move on to the details of week two on the FLAT BELLY DIET.

I will answer several questions.

1. How much did it actually cost?
2. How hard was it?
3. Was the food delicious or choke-worthy?
4. Was it worth the effort?
5. Problems and/or successes ...

How Much Did it Cost?

This grocery shopping was much more complicated this week and more frustrating, because we had to go to five different grocery stores and still didn't find all of the items listed on the grocery list. Another complication to the grocery bill (which originally was $150) was the fact that my oldest son decided he really likes this food and he started to eat everything up before those of us on the program got to it. So, this also required extra grocery store trips. Who knew my seventeen-year-old would eat all of the fresh spinach before it came up on our menu list? He also loved the Garlic Hummus on the Kashi Crackers ... back to the store!

So, I've decided to add up all of the miscellaneous receipts and divide it by FIVE people this week.

Our GROCERY BILL for the second week, for five people = $230.37
For one person, that would be closer to = $46.07

We did NOT purchase tapenade, because we could not find it ANYWHERE. We went to Albertson's, WinCo, Walmart, Fred Meyer, and the Boise Co-op. Nada. Fred Meyer and the Co-op said they normally carry it, but they were both "out."

How Hard Was it?

This week was a lot harder for us. For two reasons:

1. There were quiet a few of the menus that called for Tapenade ... and we were unable to find it anywhere, so trying to figure out what to do instead, again and again, became frustrating.

Picture Source: http://deestroyer.blogspot.com/2008/11/olive-tapenade.html - - silly me - - I should have googled this sooner! Who knew you could make your OWN homemade tapenade? That would have saved us a bunch of grief this week! YIKES. Oh well. NOW I know!!

2. Our air conditioner is currently not working. So, we did not want to use the oven or stove because it would heat up our home even more, and many of the the menus called for cooked items. So, we actually, had fruit smoothies more than we probably should have. BECAUSE THEY WERE COLD!!

Was the food delicious or choke-worthy?

Overall, the food was fine. I feel like I cannot accurately judge it this week, because we made so many substitions (for reasons above). So, I wonder if we were craving pizza more this week because we weren't able to follow the program precisely. Nothing stood out this week as a truly choke-worthy meal.

Our favorite meals by far, were the fruit smoothies.

We simply put 1 cup rice milk in the blender and added 1 cup worth of our favorite fruits. We put in frozen bananas, frozen blackberries, frozen grapes, frozen cherries, etc. YUM YUM YUM. And then followed it with a "MUFA" such as almonds or pine nuts.

I really haven't been craving chocolate at all on this program which is a real surprise to me ... considering it has always been my number one food source! But, maybe that's because we get to eat chocolate! One day we needed to substitute a meal, and so we went out and picked fresh raspberries and piled them on top of the Kashi waffle which had been broiled in the oven with 1/4 cup dark chocolate chips on it ... HEAVEN!!

Was it worth the effort?

I doubted it for the first time after weighing in. I guess I'm jealous that my husband is dropping pounds so rapidly, and I'm hovering. But, as my seventeen-year-old son said, "At least you're dropping and not gaining!"

My entire family is thrilled with this eating program. I have struggled with pizza cravings this last week, but I'm still satisfied with the food choices we've had.

My sixteen-year-old son still loves the food. He went on a three day trip with a youth group, and I told him he could just eat the food provided, and not worry about it, but he chose to take some healthy Luna bars and nuts with him. He came home and told me about all the delicious things he ate like muffins, bacon, hashbrowns, sloppy joes, etc. And yet, at the end of the week, he still dropped a pound.

My fourteen-year-old daughter is very pleased with the program. She dropped 2 pounds during this week two of the program. And, yes, I'm keeping an eye on it. But, she's doing volleyball camps 24/7 this month and with that level of activity, she's going to drop a few pounds.

My husband is thrilled. He loves having me pack his meals for him, and he feels like he is eating more than before and still dropping pounds. He went down another 5 pounds this week, and he still has not added any exercise.

I am hanging in there. I'm determined to achieve my goal and not quit before ... but I was a little sad when my "weigh-in" showed only 2 pounds dropped. I did water aerobics three times during the week.

Problems and/or successes

As described above, the grocery shopping was frustrating because we couldn't find the tapenade. Which in turn made the menu process frustrating because we had to figure out so many substitutions for the lack of tapenade.

The other problem was my oldest son eating up the food before we got to it on the menu. This required extra trips to the store to replace food items. But, this could also be considered a success because he now loves hummus, whole wheat crackers, salads, spinach, and much more.

Contest! YAY!

2011-07-21T13:36:00.000-07:00

Wanna win TWO books by Lauren Oliver?

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http://ishtamercurio.blogspot.com/2011/07/200-follower-celebration-lauren-oliver.html

I've entered ... you should, too! Well, if you don't ... I have a better chance of winning. (just sayin')

Book Review: SMOKIN' SEVENTEEN by Janet Evanovich

2011-07-21T02:00:00.000-07:00

Smokin' Seventeen: A Stephanie Plum Novel by Janet Evanovich

My rating: 2 of 5 stars

I procrastinated writing a review for this book because ... as much as I love the Stephanie Plum novels ... I was disappointed with the characters in this book. Plus, with the last several books, I've felt like the font got bigger and the pages were less ... still I was at a loss for words to describe this book.

Then I stumbled upon an AWESOME review of this book:

http://badassbookreviews.com/2011/06/29/dear-janet-evanovich-smokin-seventeen-a-plum-terrible-novel/

Read it, and you'll know how I feel about this book. Bummer!

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ACK! Women Work Too Hard!!

2011-07-20T11:14:00.000-07:00

So, I actually went to a movie with my husband the other night. This is a rare thing for me ... because I can't just sit there for two hours thinking about all of the work that needs to be done at home. I simply have too many responsibilities. Too many things on my to-do list. I've struggled all summer long to keep my head above water ... I'm not even in a state where I can think about "balance" ... I can only think about running from thing to thing and staying afloat.

But, considering our air conditioner hasn't worked for nearly three weeks (did I mention temperatures here were near 100 degrees twice this last week?) ... when my husband asked me to go see LARRY CROWNE ... I looked at him, wiped the sweat from my forehead, and asked, "Are you offering to take me to an air conditioned facility for two hours?" He smiled, and I said, "Let's go!"

Sitting in the theater watching previews ... this one came on, and I found myself getting more and more ticked off as I watched this short trailer:

Why are women expected to do SO MUCH?

I had a conversation with a friend yesterday, and she was telling me how her husband does nothing around the house. He's too tired when he gets home from his job to help with house work, yard work, or kids' homework. When do women get to "come home FROM work" ??? Tell me!

I know I have some WONDERFUL male blog followers who often leave great comments - - so tell me please - - do you think women work too hard? Do you help around the house?

Women ... why is this a problem? Or am I alone in my struggles to "do it all" ... yikes ... I need a spa day.

Flat Belly Diet Recipes

2011-07-15T08:57:00.000-07:00

After finishing week one of the FLAT BELLY DIET, we have found one choke-worthy recipe and many delicious new family favorites.

First, our top three surprises:

1. Pumpkin Crunch Cereal: We always thought "healthy" cereals were icky, but the FBD introduced us to a basic concept that I'm embarrassed to admit I'd never tried before. You take the most plain basic healthy cereal (Kashi 7 Whole Grain Puffs), add two tablespoons nuts or seeds (like raw unsalted Pumpkin Seeds), and add fruit (like a sliced banana). This was a yum-a-licious surprise that the entire family liked. And, the variations are endless. For example, in week two, we tried the cereal with 2 tablespoons craisins and 2 tablespoons hazelnuts. YUM!

2. Egg Beaters: They tasted just as good as the eggs we've used in the past.

3. California Burger: I've always hated veggie burgers in the past, and I honestly thought I would have to gag this one down. But, I discovered that "brand" makes a difference, and the way you dress the burger also makes a huge difference! We used Dr. Praeger's California Veggie Burgers. Inside a whole wheat pita, we put 1/2 cup romaine lettuce, 1/2 cup sliced red bell pepper, 1/4 cup avocado, and 1 teaspoon Dijon mustard. Oh my gosh! These extra items with the veggie burger made it so delicious! This was the number one shocker for me!!

Our top three favorite meals:

1. Strawberry Chocolate Waffle: Broil 1 Kashi Whole Grain Waffle with 1/4 cup dark chocolate chips on top (until chocolate melts). Top with one cup strawberries. We've also tried fruit variations such as freshly picked raspberries and cherries. YUM!

2. Chicken Sandwich: Basic, but delicious. Spread two slices whole wheat bread with 1/4 cup avocado. Add 3 ounces organic deli chicken breast and 1/2 cup romaine lettuce. Delicious.

3. Waldorf Pita: On one whole wheat pita spread 2 Laughing Cow Light Garlic & Herb Wedges. Fill with thinly sliced apple, 2 tablespoons walnuts, and 1 cup romaine lettuce.

And, the ultimate choke-worthy meal (I want to gag just thinking about it):

Avocado and Salmon Salad: 3 cups romaine lettuce, 2 ounces salmon, 1 sliced grapefruit, 1/4 cup diced avocado, 1 tablespon rice vinegar, and 2 teaspoons olive oil.

The flavors competed with each other and simply didn't blend well. We all agreed it was awful.

We really learned during the first week, that we have to let go of preconceived notions of foods. Certain foods we expected to be icky turned out to be yummy and other foods we could not wait for (Guacamole Dip) disappointed us, because we expected them to taste like old favorites (loaded with salt and other unhealthy ingredients). Once we changed our thinking, the foods tasted even better.

FBD: Week One Details

2011-07-12T13:19:00.000-07:00

I know you've been sitting on the edges of your seats waiting for the details from WEEK ONE of the FLAT BELLY DIET!

Wait no longer!

I will answer several questions.

1. How much did it actually cost?
2. How hard was it?
3. Was the food delicious or choke-worthy?
4. Was it worth the effort?
5. Problems and/or successes ...

How Much Did it Cost?

Yikes! I nearly had a heart-attack when I learned the total for the first week's grocery list. However, after re-reading several pages of the book a little bit more closely, I came to learn that the first week's grocery list actually includes MANY items that will be used throughout the entire month. For example, you purchase a TON of raw nuts and seeds that you will use for the entire 28 day program. Also, we bought a TON of olives, and the first week's worth of menus never used a single olive. So, keeping that in mind:

Our GROCERY BILL for the first week, for four people = $413.98

There were a few items we did NOT purchase on the list, including Macadamia nuts and Pishtachios, because we could not find the raw unsalted kind. However, we also added snack size ziplocs to the bill so that we could package up all of the nuts in serving size portions. We did the majority of the purchase at WinCo, but we could only find the Kashi Whole Grain Waffles at Fred Meyer.

For one person, that would be $103.50.

When we saw the grocery total, we panicked a bit, thinking, "We cannot sustain this price for a month. There's no way." But, again, when we realized many of the items were purchased for the entire month, we felt better. And, when we saw the price tag for week two, we calmed down significantly. (You'll find out that total next week!)

How Hard Was it?

After doing the four day jump start, this week seemed super easy. The daily calories increased from 1200 to 1600, and that increase made it so my son didn't feel hungry between the meals. Occassionally, we found ourselves hungry, but not constantly. So, that was nice.

The menus were varied and simple to follow. That's really important to me.

The hardest part of the program was weighing, measuring, and preparing the meals for my husband to take to work the next day.

Was the food delicious or choke-worthy?

Overall, the food was delicious. However, there was one TOTALLY choke-worthy gag-inducing meal. I will blog about that tomorrow or the next day. And, on the other hand, there was one meal that I EXPECTED to gag on, and I LOVED it!! This, too, will be in a separate post.

We agreed we would try each meal (or item) at least once and give it a fair chance. But, we also agreed if we thought something was awful, we'd make appropriate substitutions (the program allows this and explains how to substitute).

Our favorite "meal" ... was the Strawberry Chocolate Waffle. Serious. It should be a dessert, not a meal. You take one Kashi Whole Grain Waffle, top it with 1/4 cup Dark Chocolate chips, and broil it in the oven until the chocolate melts and the waffle toasts. Then you take it out and top it with one cup of fresh strawberries. HOLY MOLY. Talk about heaven!! I've never had anything that yummy on a "diet" before!!

I wish I would have taken a picture of it - - because it was SO PRETTY - - but it just looked to yummy to delay consumption.

Was it worth the effort?

My son loves the food, and is thrilled with all of the menu choices. His weight stayed the same, but he felt it was worth it for the yummy food alone.

My daughter is very pleased with the program (see previous post about her increased stamina). She dropped 1.5 pounds during this week one of the program.

My husband is thrilled. He loves having me pack his meals for him, and he feels like he is eating more than before and still dropping pounds. He went down 5 pounds during the week. He has not added any exercise.

I am enjoying the program because of simplicity and because the food has been delicious. I was a little sad when my "weigh-in" showed only 1 pound dropped, but I didn't feel cheated because I'd enjoyed the food on the program. PLUS, two additional factors in my week: I only exercised once during the week, and I went camping with the girls. During the campout, I took "approved" foods, but I also ate one hot dog (yum), four cookies (yum), and a muffin. :) So, considering all of that, only losing one pound was still worth the effort I put into the program. This week, I'm adding back in the water aerobics. Determination is on my side!

Problems and/or successes

The grocery shopping went more smoothly this time, but largely because my husband went with me and we team-worked it.

The only "problem" ... I mentioned above ... the campout. I was concerned about it, but planned and packed my food ahead. I thought it turned out to be a success. I still enjoyed a few treats, but didn't ruin my program. I was also concerned that my husband would quit the program while I was gone. He had to pack his own meals, and he and the kids had to prepare the food items for themselves. They did great, and as a result, they know how to utilize the book and don't need to ask me what we're eating next. They now look it up themselves and get going ... That's great!

My daughter even mentioned to me that doing this program is helping her pass off a value experience for her young women's program at church. Helping plan, shop, and prepare meals for mutliple weeks!

I still think our taste buds are changing, because I thought I'd never be able to eat unsalted nuts ... but I'm enjoying them!

Check back tomorrow for the details on the yummy and not-so-yummy foods from week one. :)

FBD: Teenagers & Diets

2011-07-11T07:11:00.000-07:00

Should a teenager diet?

Picture source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1279882/Teenager-beats-anorexia-Miss-England-beauty-contestant.html

Heck NO!

But ... should a teenager learn to make healthy choices and eat right?

Heck YEAH!

:)

I appreciate all of the great comments and feedback on these "Flat Belly Diet" (FBD) posts; one of which spurred this line of thinking about teenagers and diets.

While this healthy eating program is formally titled a "diet" ... I have to tell you, we are eating more food and better food than we have previously. In the past, we've eaten less, but it was junk that was higher in calories, higher in salt, and higher in fat content.

My teenagers are thrilled with our menu, but I've had to instruct them to stop telling people they're on a "diet" because of the harsh feedback I'm getting from people (in daily life). My kids don't understand what the issue is, because I've never "put them on a diet" before and the food we are eating is awesome (with one major exception which I will blog about soon).

Here's an example of how well my kids are doing on this program:

Last week, my daughter participated in a volleyball tournament. The first day, she played 7 1/2 hours of volleyball. Sheesh! I was concerned about her water intake as well as her calorie intake. I made sure she stayed well hydrated and when she had a break, I made her eat the FBD meal that was scheduled. I offered her more food, and she said she was honestly stuffed. I told her she needed more calories because of the physical activity. She insisted she was fine.

At the end of the evening (10:15pm) I asked her if she felt light headed at all. She didn't understand the purpose of the question and said, "Mom, I have never felt this good after this much playing. It's amazing."

So, while the other girls on her team had been downing bags of chips, chocolate bars, gatorade, and other miscellaneous foods, my daughter ate her protein, fruit, veggies, and nuts and had the fuel necessary to keep playing.

That's a testament to the well balanced foods of this program.

As far as dropping pounds, both of my teenagers dropped during the 4 day jump start, but today we had our weekly weigh-in, and my son stayed the same with his weight (but his belly is noticeably slimmer) and my daughter went down 1.5 pounds. Considering how much volleyball she played last week, that's reasonable. You'll have to check back to find out how my weigh-in went. :)

Having our family participate in this healthier eating program has been a very positive experience for all of us. Plus, we've felt a great sense of teamwork doing it together.

What do you think? Is it wrong to put kids on a diet? Do you think that's what I have done here with this program?

FBD (Flat Belly Diet): 4 Day Jump Start

2011-07-08T14:00:00.000-07:00

Photo Source: http://momswithoutblogs.com/2009/08/sassy-water-flat-belly-diet-and.html

I think this picture looks like it has a crab leg in it - - but actually it is Ginger! ha. One of the main features of the Flat Belly Diet's 4 Day Jump Start is drinking two liters each day of the "Sassy Water" which is:

2 Liters Water
1 Thinly Sliced Lemon
1 Thinly Sliced Cucumber
1 tsp Finely Grated Fresh Ginger
12 Small Mint Leaves

You make the water the night before (which, holy moly, is a lot of work for four people) and let it sit in the fridge.

But, the Sassy Water is NOT the only thing that makes the 4 Day Jump Start work. You only eat 1200 calories a day, following specific meal menus.

As I detail our journey with this program, I will answer several questions.
1. How much did it actually cost?
2. How hard was it?
3. Was the food delicious or choke-worthy?
4. Was it worth the effort?
5. Problems and/or successes ...

How Much Did it Cost?

Our GROCERY BILL for the four days, for four people = $140.52
For one person, that would be $35.13.

Now, considering you could go out to eat ... maybe twice ... at a restaurant for $35.13, this bill isn't terrible for four days worth of food. Especially considering Talipia, Turkey Breast, and Blueberries were purchased. But, the fact is, we don't go out to eat. So, this was a lot of money for us. Eating healthier is more expensive than eating processed cheap food.

Plus, we did already have several items (like raisins, cream of wheat, and brown rice) already in our pantry. So, that reduced our grocery bill.

I was concerned, knowing that I could not sustain that price tag for the entire program. We have committed to follow the program for the 4 Day Jump Start and then the 28 day program. Hopefully, it won't bankrupt us!

Picture Source: http://personalmoneystore.com/moneyblog/2009/08/18/sassy-water-saves-money-calories/

How Hard Was it?
The book says that if you eat every four hours, you won't get hungry. Hmm. True AND false. My 16-yr-old son struggled with being very hungry between each meal. My stomach growled, but I was not miserable. My daughter (14-yr-old) and husband had no problems with hunger between the meals.

My daughter REALLY struggled to down the "Sassy Water" each day. It made her want to gag. She said if she didn't have to drink that, the four days would have been easy. My husband and son LOVED the water and want to drink it again as a "treat." I didn't mind the water, but I prefer plain water. Oh ... and my husband said the water made him pee twenty minutes after drinking a glass, every time. Not me. I normally drink a lot of water, so I noticed no change in bathroom visits for me.

Was the food delicious or choke-worthy?

For the most part, the food was fine. It's always hard to make a dietary change. So, to go from milk chocolate any time I wanted it, to plain tuna, was a jump for me. Also, I don't do dairy (except for chocolate of course!), but luckily, there were dairy alternatives. Rice milk is not bad, but it is still not my favorite. The only food item on the menu I had trouble with was the plain tuna. I am used to slathering my tuna in a ton of Miracle Whip. That's not an option with this program. However, I by day 4 I was able to eat the plain tuna. It seemed as though my taste buds were changing, because day 1 we really noticed the lack of salt and sugar, but day 4 ... it no longer bothered us.

The food menus in the 4 Day Jump Start were repetitive and got old quickly, but knowing it was only for four days, we soldiered through it.

The fish was delicious. We seasoned the Talipia with lime and basil and grilled it. YUM.

I felt like there was a ton of food at each meal - especially when vegetables were involved.

Was it worth the effort?
My husband works at a movie theater as a part-time second job, and he came home after the 3rd day of the Jump Start and was in a rotten mood. I asked him what was wrong, and he muttered something I couldn't hear. Then he pulled out the scale and stood on it. I very politely reminded him that we were not going to weigh ourselves every day. He said (now with a smile on his face), "Well it's a good thing I did weigh myself, because I was ready to quit. But, now seeing I've dropped 6 pounds in 3 days, I guess I'll stick with the program."

The problem was, he is around food at the theaters, and it's hard for him to smell the hotdogs and popcorn and see people eating junk and just say NO. So, we've since decided to send him to work with an "approved" meal replacement bar and nuts. That way if temptation is striking, he can turn to a healthy choice instead.

So, all four of us agreed, it was definitely worth the effort. We all dropped between 5-7 pounds each. And, yes, I had a serious talk with my kids about weight loss. I don't want them to drop a lot of weight, especially not at a fast rate. We are keeping an eye on that.

Problems and/or successes
The grocery shopping was very frustrating for me. I was trying to find items I'd never purchased before and read labels to make sure they met the "no sugar added & no trans fat" requirements. I never was able to find Corn Flakes with no added sugar. So, we ended up having cream of wheat each morning.

I also wish I would have used a calculator at home to refigure the quanitites on the grocery list for four people. Doing it while standing in the aisle made me dizzy.

But, one of the reasons I wanted to do this program is because of the fact the weekly grocery lists are already prepared for you, along with the daily menus. The authors have made this very easy to follow.

The other challenge of the 4 Day Jump Start was making the Sassy Water each night for four people. It was time consuming, and because we each needed to drink our own 2 liters of it, we needed separate containers for each of us. This took up a lot of space in the refrigerator. But, it was defitinely worth the effort.

Bottom line: I'm only weighing myself once a week. So, for the entire week, which included the jump start eating change and four days of exercise, I dropped 7 pounds.

That was worth the effort.

FAT Belly Diet

2011-07-06T21:50:00.000-07:00

Photo Source: http://www.otgal.com/2010/06/5-tips-to-loss-the-belly/

For the longest time, I thought this "eating program" was called the FAT belly diet. HAHA. I thought I should try it just because of the name. When I learned the correct name is THE FLAT BELLY DIET ... I wasn't as excited for the program. I know ... I'm strange.

But ... a friend gave me the Pocket Guide for the program and she absolutely swore by it. She said the food was delicious, the program was easy, and the pounds fell off so fast she had to stop following the program so closely.

I accepted the book, and let it sit on my shelf for ... oh ... let's just say, I had to wipe a thick layer of dust off of it before I could read it. Truth.

The more I read, the more I liked the concept. Basically, you follow three rules:
1. Stick to 400 calories per meal (and there are four meals per day)
2. Never go more than 4 hours without eating
3. Eat a MUFA at each meal

A MUFA is a monounsaturated fatty acid, like nuts, avocados, olives, and dark chocolate.

PERFECT! I love those foods.

But, how could I get my husband on board? I knew that in order for ME to be successful with this, I would need him to participate. Why? Because, my willpower weakens when he is eating brownies and ice cream in front of me!

So, I enlisted the help of two (of three) of my children. Katie and Jacob do NOT need to go on a diet ... but ... if they were willing to eat the same foods and at least do the "4 Day Jump Start" with me, I was just sure we could pull Chris (my husband) along for the ride.

They quickly agreed! (YAY!) and we revealed the news to my husband that evening that GUESS WHAT?! We're starting a diet tomorrow.

He said as long as I measured, weighed, and packaged all of his food for him, he'd do it. I agreed to his terms.

Check back ~~tomorrow~~ Friday (I'll be out of town Thursday) for details on how the 4 Day Jump Start turned out.

Can You See the SWEAT on the Back of my Shirt?

2011-07-05T22:08:00.000-07:00

About 2pm this afternoon, my daughter commented, "Oh, this is not going to be a good shirt for volleyball."

I asked, "Why not?" I thought the shirt for the summer league was super cute, bright turquoise with white and pink accents.

"It's gonna show pit," she said and pointed at the armpits.

I tried not to laugh. IT'S A VOLLEYBALL LEAGUE. You are SUPPOSED to sweat!!

Somewhere around 150 teenage girls showed up today for the first day of this two week league. They played non-stop (okay, maybe two breaks) volleyball from 5pm to 10pm. Plus, my daughter's school met earlier, at 2:30pm, to get some practice time in before the league games. So, technically, she played 7 1/2 hours of volleyball today.

But, at the league games, I watched girl after girl turn to her closest ally and ask, "Can you see the sweat on the back of my shirt?" And, each time it was said with a tone of concern, because none of the girls wanted to be caught sweating ... at least not more than the other girls around them.

These are athletes!! This is not P.E. ... They've chosen to compete.

After about the fourth game, when my own daughter asked me, "Does my shirt look really wet with sweat?" - - I very kindly replied (with wide eyes and raised eyebrows) "Focus on your game play, not on your sweat!"

She nodded and said, "Right, but does it look bad?"

I love young women.

I get to watch another five hours tomorrow.

P.S. I know my posts have been lacking lately. My apologies. I've been very focused on family activities, and The Flat Belly Diet! While this blog is intended to be a resource for writers (which it STILL IS! just click on links in the sidebar to previous posts!), I think I might devote some time to writing about our journey with the Flat Belly Diet program. It's been interesting. And, very successful - - so check back for more updates on that!

Book Review: FLAT BELLY DIET! POCKET GUIDE

2011-07-01T20:56:00.000-07:00

Flat Belly Diet! Pocket Guide: Featuring Your ULTIMATE 28-Day Eating Plan for Lasting Weight Loss by Liz Vaccariello

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Maybe I should wait until I complete the program before I rate this book? Nah.

I read some of the other reviews, and I find it interesting to think we all read the same book. The opinions vary greatly - - but overall, I think this is a great book.

Here's why:

1. It was recommended to me.
2. It was easy and quick to read.
3. It was motivating.
4. I've finished day two of the jumpstart program, and I'm doing well on the program.

I've only felt hungry once or twice, and it didn't last long, because the meals are spaced four hours apart. It's been a challenge to give up the butter and the salt shaker - - but I'm discovering the flavors of the different seasonings available.

And, the most exciting part of this program? My family is doing it with me! What could possibly entice my family to eat the food (measured and weighed) from a diet program?

Well ... the concept and the foods are very appealing. There is way more meat (chicken, fish, turkey, tuna, etc.) in the program than what we normally eat. And, the diet is based on the concept of eating Monounsaturated Fatty Acids. What are those? Well, they just happen to be some of my family's favorite foods: olives, avocados, nuts, seeds, and dark chocolate - - yes! DARK CHOCOLATE!

So, my goal is to stick with it for the entire 28 day program (after the 4 day jump start). There are weekly menus and weekly grocery lists for the 28 days, and that makes it so much easier.

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A Few Pictures from Girls' Camp!

2011-06-30T18:43:00.000-07:00

I know some of my writerly friends were excited for summer because they'd have more time to write ... not me!! YIKES. I have not had a spare second to even think about writing. Sad ... I know ... but don't cry for me. I've been busy having fun.

Here are a few pictures from Girls' Camp:

Bus trip:

Group shot, first day:

Making friendship bracelets:

Hike to the top of a mountain:

My knowledge of the TWILIGHT series finally paid off when I correctly "ordered" the vampires and helped our group win the game show!

Certification classes:

Our group of girls were the "monkeys" and so one of our girls CHOSE to wear a banana costume all day. FUNNY.

We tied quilts for Humanitarian Services:

We decorated hats for the Shriners (I think?) for kids with cancer:

Girls CHOSE to read the scriptures together in their free time - - - AH! Be still my soul!!

I made these super cute super hairy backpacks for each of the girls:

My daughter and I took nearly 600 photos, so I could show you a ton more, but I'll stop with our group shot from the last night. We all cleaned up after a week of being dirty and wore white shirts to dinner:

It was a great week, and I hope I get to go again next year!!

Converting to a New Religion

2011-06-27T10:04:00.000-07:00

Okay! I've made a decision (YAY me!).

I'm converting to dark chocolate.

I know. I know. Remain calm.

But here's the thing: I've made a serious goal. I want to be physically fit. I don't need to be skinny, but I want to be stronger and have more stamina. Therefore, I'll admit here (but only because I'm pretty sure my high school crushes don't read this blog), I want to be 100 pounds lighter by this time next year.

Standards (rumors?) say it is safe to lose 2% of your body weight per week. So, based on that, I think this is a reasonable goal.

I started last Monday by adding water aerobics to my schedule. I went three times. I didn't stress myself out about changing my eating habits, yet. But, I made healthier choices at each opportunity. For example, I chose a Thai Salad at a restaurant one day instead of the deep fried finger steaks and french fries I love.

And, I still ate my chocolate, but I think I heard somewhere (another rumor??) that dark chocolate is better for you than milk chocolate. Therefore, I asked myself, if the choices were NO chocolate or DARK chocolate, which would I choose? Dark, duh.

So, I'm converting to DARK CHOCOLATE. Wish me luck.

And, by the way, I dropped five pounds this last week, just by adding three classes of water aerobics and healthier food choices.

This week? Four water aerobic classes. That's all I can promise.
:)

What are your healthy eating tips? And, do you prefer DARK or MILK chocolate? Could you convert?

Book Review: THE ART OF HAPPINESS

2011-06-24T01:00:00.000-07:00

The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living by Dalai Lama XIV

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Well ... I almost gave it three stars instead of four ... simply because Cutler's narratives drove me nuts. I loved the messages of Dalai Lama, but I found Cutler's words irritating! (Cutler is the Western psychiatrist who interviewed the Dalai Lama and put the book together).

I know ... if I would put into practice the art of compassion as taught by the Dalai Lama, Cutler's opinions wouldn't have bothered me. However, I'm not that enlightened.

It seemed as though Cutler belittled some of the Buddhist philosophies, calling them "too simple." Then, he would reference situations and examples where either he was playing the "devil's advocate" to make a more profound point of the Dalai Lama's messages, OR Cutler was very insensitive. I just thought, here is a man with a personal audience with the Dalai Lama - - - why is he not learning and putting into practice the things he is hearing?

I began to skim Cutler's sections and read the Dalai Lama's sections more slowly.

I found the Dalai Lama's messages inspiring. To understand the difference between pleasure and happiness ... a new window was opened for me. After reading that section, I was able to make decisions more easily based on whether the choice would provide me long term happiness or short term pleasure. A great way to look at things.

Many other great messages opened my eyes and also reaffirmed personal beliefs regarding charity, tolerance, forgiveness, and other important ideas.

A great book regardless of your religious affinities.

It is one I will read again.

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What book are you reading right now?

ACK! Bugs - I do NOT like them!!

2011-06-22T23:05:00.000-07:00

Okay, so yes ... I've been home from Girls' Camp a few days, and I know you are all dying for pictures and stories - - right? Well, I've still been a bit busy trying to catch up with my runaway life.

One thing I've been busy with: sending my 16-yr-old son off on a rock-climbing and camping trip with a youth group.

He came home tonight (11pm) from the trip. At first, I thought coming home late would be fine. Right? Have him shower and send him to bed. Easy peasy.

Until he stiffly came to my room and said, "Mom, whatever you do, please don't panic. I can't handle that."

Deep breath.

"I won't panic." I slowly sat up (I had been reading THE ART OF HAPPINESS while waiting for him to head to bed).

Jacob said, "I have a tick. Could you please remove it?"

Deep breath.

Fire? Oil? Tweezers? Google?

Flashlight! Maybe he only thinks it's a tick! Maybe it's a blood blister!

Upon closer examination ... definitely a tick.

Have I not had enough encounters with bugs this month?

I very calmly asked him, "Did you use bug spray while you were camping?" YOU KNOW ... THE KIND THAT DISCOURAGES TICKS FROM HITCHING A RIDE?

"No," he calmly responded.

So, while I saturated the tick with olive oil, I wondered if I should've started with a flame, but then thought the two ideas shouldn't reside in my head at the same time. Is olive oil flamable? YIKES. Using tweezers, very close to his skin, I sucessfully removed (as far as I can tell at 11:30pm) the tick. Minus one leg.

Think I can sleep peacefully tonight?

YIKES! Seems I actually cannot DO IT ALL!

2011-06-13T22:00:00.000-07:00

I could list out my to-do list from the last three weeks and identify the things accomplished and those that fell by the way-side ... but that would take too much time, and frankly, depress me.

So, instead I'll give you a list of five things I did accomplish and five I did not. And, keep in mind, we just got back in town, and I'm leaving again Tuesday 6am for a week at Girls' Camp.

Accomplished:
1. Colored hair purple (not bright but vibrant) because 39 girls accomplished the service goals we set for them prior to this week's girls' camp.
2. ~~Taught Pulled my hair out~~ ... HELPED my daughter sew four monkey themed pillowcases (two to give away) and a pair of monkey-themed fleece pajama bottoms for her to wear at camp. (Our group of 39 girls have the monkey as our mascot.)
3. Bought a swim suit so I can attend water aerobics again.
4. Got puppy to the vet for his next round of shots.
5. Really - that's all I can think of.

Not Accomplished:
1. Clean house
2. Finish critiques for writing buddies
3. Clean house
4. Pottie train puppy
5. Schedule blog posts ahead for the next week

So ... feel free to come and clean my house while I'm gone and pottie-train the puppy.

Blog posts will resume on June 20th. ... Well, assuming I survive girls' camp.